Worried and Stressed about Dad

Sorry that I cant be of any help regarding Ayurvedic Dr.But I feel sorry for your situation.Just felt like replying to you.For all that you have been doing to your dad in taking care of him, my hugs to you

 

raisin,

It is indeed very stressful situation you are in. Yes, you are too young to deal with such problems, may God give you loads of strength. There is a saying - 'You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have'. Be strong. God Bless.

 

hi raisin,

pls see http://www.indusladies.com/forums/a...veda-naturopathy-clinic-cancer-treatment.html thread.

Do not loose hope. Things will be fine . All the best.

 

Raisin,

It is a lot for everyone involved to go through. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can; that your dad's cancer is now in remission, and that it is ok to feel sad, and angry at times - it is just the different ways we cope with life-changing events like these.

Don't beat yourself up over mistakes, you have a lot on your mind and on your hands... try to get some help for other things in your life (home, cooking, cleaning, driving around, child-care if needed) it will give you some rest. Also, as selfish as it might sound right now - take some time out to take care of yourself. If you are well rested you will be able to take care of them better.

 

Hi Raisin,

My hugs to you dear. I do Cancer research and I thought I can write what I know. Usually after cancer surgery and radiation threapy people lose a lot of weight and there is lack of apeptite. Give him lots of nuts and fruits every one hour , when his immune system gets better gradually he will be able to eat more. So do not get stressed out. I know it is really very hard on care givers so here in our hospital we usually give lot of support and we encourage them to take time out for themselves. You should be positive and happy and this vibration should be passed on to the patients.
So do take care go out, eat healthy, do mediation, meet friends this will keep you sane and be cheerful in front of your dad. He wil be ok soon but it takes time to build back his immune system.
Hope this will help you. Take care and write to me if you any furthur support, please do not take it hard on yourself

 

Raisin, kudos for your efforts & I wish you get the world's strength to balance out the current difficulties.
I have a family friend uncle who was diagnosed with blood cancer at early stages and is being cured... yes all those medications make a person v v irritable and they tend to throw up... this continued for 2 yrs and he's lot more better now, he eats without throwing... so it takes time but happens. His recent reports were really better and he's now visiting his kids abroad.

Now if you're feeling weared out which is a normal case as you're married and there's another half of your world... pls hire a full time help for your dad, who shall take his mood swings (this person should be aware of sign language so that he can teach him new way to communicate)... same was done for the uncle whom I mentioned and there was a lot more peace at home. We all have patience levels and when we realise that we're running out of it, then its in best interest of all to get a help.

Since you also faced certain issues at reproductive health, I shall strongly suggest that bring it to your priority as well.. you can take your dad once a week and then remaining the person you hire can do it.

All the best and remain positive.

 

Hi Raisin,
It is very natural for your father to feel tired and sleepy. He has been subjected to strong radiation waves which in addition to killing the cancer cells in the body also kills the normal cells. He now has very low count of white blood cells and red blood cells which are the key soliders in our body that protect us from dieases and keep us engertic. He is now anemic. when he regains his count back he will be ok.
Do not get angry on him his body is not coperating with him now. Allow him to take his own time.
Take care dear

 

What did I do to deserve this?Raisin, I dont think we did something to deserve hardship in life but then god chose us for a hardship cos he knew that we can handle it and will get strong with it.

Your dad has lost his speech and is exposed to radiations and you're hard pressed to join DH.. this is mounting pressure apart from hospital visit.. pls remain calm, people dont recover fast of illness eating dry fruits especially when his overall body is v weak how will he digest dry fruits? Did the doc suggest it?

I strongly suggest that you google for a male nurse in your locality and hire a help, you're running out of patience.