no action plz help me??

Well you have to explain in detail as to why they is no Intimacy ? is it because you live by yourself or work away frm home... or any other reason.

Pregnancy cant be avoided by using birth control pills, condoms which ever you prefer.

for more details go thru this thread

http://www.indusladies.com/forums/f...1-newly-married-questions-about-intimacy.html

 

If you are intimate with your husband then you will get feeling and can have sex. I am surprised that your husband waited this long!!!!

There will not be any problem for your health if you have sex.
If you do not want to get pregnant then please use birth control pills or condoms.

 

Swapna,
I remember you raising something along the same lines few months back in the Me & My spouse forum.. But you were not clear enough then and even now.

Please take time to explain what is your problem with respect to getting closer with your DH. Why so much wait? I believe you had some issues other than this.. How is everything going?

 

Okay I got some knowledge abt your problem now, so your Dh wants you to work but you don't want to work and you have told this to him before marriage as well.

What is your problem in working? are you not confident? as you stated that you are not good in academics, still what is your highest leave of degree, you may look for some small jobs which will help you boost your confidence, Interacting with new ppl will bring self confidence., even if you dnt want to work ... try finding volunteer jobs in your area , if you get out of teh house fr a while you will make new frnds and feel better.

As i mentioned earlier if you dnt want to get pregnant , ask your DH to use condoms when having sex or you can also use birth control pills. It could be that you are too stressed out and that could be the reason for your delay in periods.

 

Swapna,

Having intercourse/sex will not lead to pregnancy if you use proper protection. I think this is your main worry. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GET PREGNANT RIGHT NOW!!
So use protection like condoms or birth control pills. Your periods are not regular because you are getting stressed out. The more you relax mentally, your periods will get regular. Also having sex will not cause any health problems.

Keeping things aside - Why are you messing your marriage with small issues like giving gold for your sister? I can understand that your sister helped you a lot and you want to give her something in return but why spoil your married life with such small issues.

You can also give your sister some other gifts other than gold. Gold is expensive these days!!! Don't force your husband now. May be after sometime you can give some gift to your sister rather than now.., Try to be nice and loving towards your husband. If you don't fight and show him that you care then even he might give back the same love.

Also, with job situation I agree with Rose..Try out different options.
I am not sure about your visa status but is your husband forcing you to get a software job??

Swapna, fighting will not lead to anything. The more you argue with each other the more your relationship will get spoiled. Instead try to sit down and talk with him and tell your fears/concerns.

Hope things work out for you soon.

 

Dear Swapna,
I tried to break down your issues based on your post. Looks like there are too many discrete problems that you are trying to make a cocktail out of.. Deal one thing at a time. Sort your issues and prioritise them. Then attack one by one.

You know, start a new thread in Me & My Spouse, take up one issue at a time and see if you can get some good suggestions from fellow ladies.

As for the intimacy thing, please be clear as to why the year long wait. It does not sound normal.. was it you who had been postponing or your DH? and why?

Is this situation the basis for the disconnection between you guys or is the disconnection the basis for this situation?