feel insecure about confrontation at work

Relax and trust his words. :thumbsup
May be Neena35 who started a thread http://www.indusladies.com/forums/me-and-my-spouse/90366-please-advise-me-how-set.html will pitch in some tips on how she manages herself.. her husband is her boss just like in your case.

For some reason my DH was never ok to have me even in the same company let alone same team!:bonk So I don't have anything else significant to say here, dear. But trust him. Take it easy.. Hope you get some good tips from other ladies.

Edit:
Just noticed that you are hardly 2 months into your marriage.. chill out.. enjoy your time.

 

My thought would be that its just not healthy for the relationships (professional & personal) for spouses to work in the same team especially in reporting positions. You do say that you feel restricted.. Even if your DH says its ok, you both are individuals and have your own way of doing things. There might be situations taht you both might not be on the same page at work & def it will affect other relationship.. Also what about any tiff in your regular married life reflecting at work??
Do check for other open positions at your company either for you or your DH.

 

[JUSTIFY]Yeah i too agree with lotusgirl. It would not be healthy to work at same place or same team. My husband was my boss prior to marriage. It was bit difficult for me to maintain balance. If we go out for dinner after work....it would be boss till 5 minutes back and after 5 minutes my boy friend or fiance. I was scared of talking to him.. and if he appreciated my work...(2-3 office colleagues were my best frnds from college and they knew about us.)...so I was scared they may feel he is partial towards me....and I was even scared thinking I may cross limits or someone might notice some difference in my body language when i spoke to him. I made sure after marriage we work at different places. [/JUSTIFY]

 

In my current organization, the lady is a manager and the husband is a team member. The lady is older by 6 years. She's a good friend of the owner and that's it.

They take advantage of every other aspect of the company. They seem to share a very symbiotic relationship.

 

Jaagruti,

Don't stress youself. Its all about how you handle the situation. When you DH is your boss, you have an advantage over other members of the team. Try to use the positives wisely instead of focusing on the negatives.

If your DH is not your boss and if you want to put forth your suggestions or confront anything, then you would do it in the meetings in front of others like everybody else. But since your boss is your DH, all you do is a little tweaking of the situation. Instead of confronting him in the meeting room in front of all the other team members, do it before or after the meeting, via the intranet chatting tool in your office (if you don't use one, do it via email).

To cut it short, if some random guy was your boss, you would spring up your opinions or confrontations in front of the team. Since this is your DH, you give him a heads-up. SIMPLE!

I worked with my DH in the same company for 2 years. Yes it was uncomfortable at times. But looking at the bright side - Working in the same company has its own sweet benefits. We could go out for lunch together everyday. We never missed each other. We could help each other at work. We enjoyed the drive to-from work everyday. We decided to take both the positives and negatives of the situation in our stride. Our colleagues used to wonder how we can bear being with each other 24x7. The secret is, we love to be near each other as much as possible. Working in the same company means we can be together most of the time. :cheers