Beat the False Expectations

Hello Friends / Ilites

These thoughts came to my mind and iam putting them across to you.
I have observed that 99% of the times we do an action keeping someone else in our mind and not for ourselves.

To give you an example of what iam trying to arrive at look at the below scenarios

When we goto a restaurant we are more worried about how to eat, we tell our children how to behave because others may be observing us.
When we need to goto a marriage what saree and what jewel to wear so that I need to look beautiful than such and such a person.
Our kid is not first in the school and the neighbour’s kid is. This will be a big prestige issue for me.

Whatever we do, “what do others think of me/us ” this question is always there at the back of mind.

We do things to please others and not ourselves. We dress ourselves to please others, not ourselves.
If we comeout of this scenario, just imagine how peaceful your life would be.

At least I have experienced this.

My husband’s choice matters to me when in purchase clothes, but then again we are two different individuals,
Sometimes what he likes I don’t like it. Earlier I used to buy what he likes and then everytime I see that dress / saree I used to repent.
Or may be I don’t use it much at all as I don’t like it.

So I came out of this syndrome, now I buy what we both like or what I like and then Iam happy to wear that dress.

Similarly when we goto restaurants with our kids, we stress so much to see that our kids are well behaved.
Everyone knows that kids are mischievous. Expect for few kids. ( Few exceptions)
So we need not be embarrassed and have our meal in a hurry so that we get out of that situation or enthrust mannerisms on the small kids.

Only when we are in Sync with ourselves, we would be at peace.
Only when we are confident about ourselves we will come across as one to others.
Only when we are happy and peaceful from within we look beautiful.

Everyone is busy in their own world and doesn’t have time to notice us.
Even if they notice and they seem un-comfortable , you need not change until and unless they are very near and dear one’s to you.

Some people may pass comments whom you may not meet anytime later in your life. Just avoid taking the things that they said to your heart or mind.

This life is very short and please lets try to LIVE every moment of it. I hope I have conveyed the message what I wanted to convey.

Regards
Shobha

 

Hello RadheShyam

Thanks for dropping in.

Yes this journey is tough, but the small changes that we can in our day to day life or personal life would make agreat difference to our own self. We will be at much peace with ourselves.

Bad habits die hard .......... so we need to take small steps to achieve big

shobha

 

Hello Tubelight

Thanks for coming in. I wish I could address you by your correct name .
you have got the point right.

I agree with every word of your's in your reply.

shobha

 

Hello Sriniketan and Lavii

You people got the point right.
Thanks for coming in.

shobha

 

Hello Deepali

Thanks for coming in.
What you said is very much right as we being social beings.
But at the same time i guess we have lot of small things in day to day life about which we may not worry a great deal.

I guess it also an individual's nature. I have seen people for whom other's opinion matter most and thier satisfaction lies in others satisfaction. In that case its fine.

In my case its different. I would love to have my space and do things accordingly.

shobha