Love

Dear Ilite's

Today through this post I would like to share my thoughts and views about being loved and loving someone.

I would like to share a story of my friend with respect to this.

My friend was a only daughter of her parents. Both the parents were working. Since both were working, they left her in her granny's house and she grew up between her uncle's and aunt's. Thier's was a sort of middle class family with enough for each one's food and clothing. No great luxuries. Both of her parents had a very tough/painful childhood. Since she grew up away from her parents, she missed thier love. Both her parents were introverts and didnot express their feelings outside.

To her Dad money means security and thinks that people will respect him only if there is money. This girl was very good at her studies, her teachers loved her, she had many friends........ She gave many reasons to her parents to be happy and proud, but it was always observed that all this was not of importance to them.

She was busy persuing her studies and career. Her parents always made her realise how important money is. How much they have spent on her education and so on..............She used to be upset when she saw a beautiful bonding between other parents and thier children. In her case it was just a give and take kind of a buisness relation.

This girl got married to the person of her choice. They were in Love for few years before they got married. Marriage was altogether a different experience for the girl as she started to love her partner more than earlier and her expectations were also high as she found some to connect as her own.She is a very loving and caring girl. She has given always all that she has to the relationship. The guy was happy and took things for granted. He didnot feel any need to pamper this girl or express his love towards her.

Slowly my friends heart is sinking and she trying to find answers to why this is happening to her. No amount of Money can buy us all these small happiness of caring for someone. She gets into depression now and then thinking that there is actually no one that she can call her own and the one who can love her unconditionally.

No amount of money can buy us back the beautiful childhood days. The pampering that each kid deserves , the love each kid deserves.

Her parents acted as such I guess because thier upbrining was that way. May be they had seen more tougher times earlier that they thought the situation that thier daughter is today is a really a very good one. May be thier parents did not express thier feelings to them.

We dont know how many people at our homes and outside need our love. A word or two of caring and sympathy. Lets make a conscious decision to spread LOVE evrywhere. We dont know how many hearts are aching with the need to be loved unable to express outwardly.

A soft gentle touch, a smile , a hug can change the much more than we can imagine.

regards
Shobha

 

Hi Aruna

Thanks for coming in sharing your views.
What I have observed personally in my friends case and even in other cases, sometimes not being loved makes one rude.

When these sort of people talk to others, they are very frank and direct even to the extent that we may hurt others badly.

But this is not thier fault. Since no one earlier were sensitive to thier needs they see life as very much black and white. No intermediate state.

Hence when they speak, they are very straight and blunt.

regards
Shobha

 

Thanks sandhya for dropping in.

Sometimes is fine , not always.

Especially for parents it very necessary to provide thier kids with a caring and loving environment. Else it may completely ruin someone's life . People may even get some kind of personality disorders.

regards
Shobha