Hubbys behavior

Yes, you are definitely over reacting. She was just combing her hair and putting on some make-up. It is not something you would not do in a public place. So what is so bad about that. If you bring this up with your husband he might also feel very cheap that you are connecting him with his own brother's wife.

Kavya.

 

Yes, you are overreacting. I would understand if she were putting on langerie or lathering up lotion on her naked body...

... but come on! Applying make up? Brushing her hair? If you walk into any mall, you will see women getting make up put on at the beauty counter. Sometimes you even see women put on make up in public. What is so scandelous about that? And brushing her hair??? You sound like the taliban men who think that a man will get mesmerized by seeing a woman's uncovered hair. Get real! He has probably seen thousands of women brushing their hair... be it his own female relatives, friends, coworkers, or strangers on the bus even.

You mentioned 'when I question him'.... what exactly is there to question him about? Actually, I don't find anything glamorous about putting make up on or brushing hair... so he will probably be so confused as to why you are even mentioning all this, as if it's something for him to get all hot and bothered about. Do yourself a favor, and keep your insecurities to yourself. This is a PHANTOM THREAT.... you are seeing problems which don't exist. JMO!

 

you are overreacting.. stop being so suspicious & thinking useless things..

 

I think the problem is not over-reacting to the current issue, I think there is lack of trust between you and your DH, you have to work on that, looks like your current anger is the result of some of his past behaviors.

 

quincy, looks like you are insecure and too hard on yourself. If you are feeling unattractive, try to get in shape or take care of yourself a little better. sometimes these insecurities we have inside about ourselves, make us think things we normally wouldn't have thought... and which don't make any sense. Try to work on yourself and become more confident.

 

Well don’t we all like to look at beautiful things? The question is how many people take the next step and act out their fantasies in real life then it becomes a problem. Find ways to get rid of negative thoughts and as ASG said you can join a gym or do some workout at home.

 

Now come on don't you never ever look at good looking guys. Well honestly I do and I share is also with my husband. Insecurity will eat into your relationship.

Kavya.