How to face this problem...

i think he needs counselling . if he is not addicted to alcohol or any other bad habits i think you should give it one more try .all the best

 

Love is blind and you fall in to that without realising what kind of person he is.First tell all the people to stop giving him any money.
Who is calling you and why they are calling you?
You need to really make call.Don't give any money from your side and save for your future.Does he earn and take care of the family?How old are both of you.He may not be the good person based on your post.

 

Why is your husband taking all the money from your friends and family? Does he have any needs you are not aware of? Any issues like gambling or drugs? You should tell all your friends and family not to give him any more money (the ones he has already gotten money from and the ones he is yet to) and cut him off.
Also get details from each one calling as to how much they gave your husband and confront him with that evidence and ask for an explanation as to why he is doing that with your friends and family.
Do you know much about his past? There is a possibility he could be a con man and all those lies point in that direction. You need to think this thru clearly and resolve this situation by confronting him as soon as possible. Or this could get much worse

 

Hi Viji

U lived 8 years guess what.. almost 50 %
u didnt tell us why he needed money..he do not have job? less salry..
let me knw if need job in IT.i do my best ..

Pls you give money for him.. this is usual in all family getting money unless if it is not gud expenses

Also do not take others wirds when they call u.. u lived him and u love dhim.. so pls take rest1 min an dthink

do not take any descion when brain is full meaning tense

This isur life u have kids.. buying money i snot matter unles for bad.. there are many hubbises do bad..

so no worries first.. pls u wrking so give money frm u..all it is for ur DH na

okva..i think he mayneed more money or depressed or something else

give me more light this wil be solved

but thi sis small one

u will happy da no worries

please be smile with him always u will get gud result

 

Hi Viji,

First safegaurd yourself and the kid at any cost. Have control over finance, investments and spending as such. You must start setting milestones. At each milestone you must check whether you have achieved atleast 50 % of the goals. For example,
In the next 4 months, you must see the following changes in your husband.
A,B and C
During that time you plan your life and want to achieve the following
A, B and C. To acheive the goals for your family your husband must meet the above expectations.

At the end of the 4th month check whether you are able to acheive atleast 50 % of them. If you are able to, add more to the next cycle. Now, you must start with minimum goals and move to the maximum. This target has to be achieved say in a years time. Within this one year if you see 60 - 70 % change in your husband it is worth continuing otherwise you will be in a miserable position. At the end of each cycle you will know where it is leading. When you are in the middle cycle, make a call and move in that direction. This means by the 6th month from your plan date you will know whether you are moving upwards or to the deep sea. If you see a downward trend start moving your coins to move away from this marriage. You cannot live with a liar.

You must be the leader here. You must inform all of your floks not to entertain his requests without your knowledge. If he continues to borrow money elsewhere and if you are forced to pay, put your foot down and say it is not your responsibility.

Being in love in not incorrect but yielding because you love someone is incorrect. When we love someone we must ensure they are in the right path and if they aren't we have to take stick (not literally). If he doesn't change, walk your way girl.

 

Are you out of your wits? Did you first understand the lady's problem here? Her husband's borrowing money from all of her sources under some pretext or the other.

She burns herself and her husband will have a happy-go-lucky life? What responsibility does that man show? Do you understand how embarrassing it is for the lady. You are definitely not a good friend. It's an oxymoron.

 

I agree 100% with Canwait. You need to do damage control on this situation immediately and find out why he has been borrowing money. Afterall, you know he is unemployed so its not like you were expecting him to bring in money while unemployed. Him borrowing money from your friends and relatives without your knowledge, puts you on the hook as well to repay those debts and since you have no idea why he is borrowing money so far, you need to confront him on that. You need to get a handle on the financial situation as soon as you can or this will get out of control. Loving a person does not mean you give him carte blanche to act and do things the way he pleases and as of now, his actions are affecting your life. Do not be complacent on this situation or love blind you and get a better handle on this situation. Good luck.

LOL I thought I was the only one startled by that response.