Being Something....

I understand we women want to give our time to our young kids which is alright if you can afford it meaning if dh makes enough for your family. I don't see why you cannot spend some most valuable and precious moments of your and your kids life together when you can do.

Please cut his crap off your life. Who is MIL to insist you work or not??
She may be very nice but should know her boundaries/limits too.
Having a job alone is not making good use of education........IMO!!
Talk to your hubby and express your opinion of staying home for some time or all the time whatever, and you both mutually come to a decision.
DO NOT INVOLVE YOUR MIL IN THIS DECISION.......she can give suggestions but cannot enforce her views on you. It is your life, your baby, your feelings, your happiness and ultimately your convenience.

 

EN,
Check with your previous company if you can re-join on part time basis.
Many ladies do it in my office post 2nd baby. Work only for 4 hrs or work from home.

I feel your MIL is right in helping you maintain your identity and not get completely immeresed into baby sitting... once they turn 8 or 9, it shall be very tough to identify from a bigger crowd of housewives and you may resent (NOT applicable to all).
No one can take complete care of small children, i think its a perfect idea to hire a nanny for half/ full day, you goto work for half day and then see if you're able to manage the load.

Not all inlaws are supportive in that.. you're feeling lack of energy just becos the yngr one is only 2 mnths, u'll be better in another 2-3 months. Take a profile thats not too agressive on deadlines but still keep you in job.

 

Enlightened,

I think if being mother and wife is what you love being that is what you should do, if financial situation of yours allows. BTW you are something, who said being mother is being nothing? If you do have choice in financial sense , explain to your MIL that your education may not be useful in the sense of earning money but it will be useful in the way you make decisions for family and bring up your children. Tell her you will work when you feel ready to do so again. It is good that You are keeping yourself updated for job market, so can work when you want. Make her understand your decision is not due to complacency but well thought decision, if it is so. But if you doubt it is due to complacency, you need to think deeper and then decide. Take your MILs insistence as an opportunity for you to contemplate further and take right decision, once sure convince your DH and along with him convince your MIL.

 

What an irony? A MIL wants her DIL to be something and encouraging, even then women ask them to mind their business and if they are horrible it is the same advice. For once, I must say poor MILs. God save them.

 

Hi,

First of all congratulations for being blessed with baby boy.Glad to knw tht your spouse&MIL are supportive & helps in decision-making. U r very lucky to hve such good people around u..


As u mentioned tht u are doing PG,why dont u try for teaching jobs in International schools & colleges,online teaching and also u can look out for part-time jobs or full time jobs which has fixed timings&less demanding..

All the Best :thumbsup

 

The above lines in OP made me think that MIL is interfering in the couple's matters. And hence asked her to ignore the MIL. Sorry OP if it sounded rude but I said so with what I have seen my friend go through. She wanted to stay home and be with her baby but the MIL insisted on her working and finally now she feels so bad that she did not enjoy that time with her baby who is now 16yrs old. Her MIL also used the same words "make use of education" and I ask one thing "Is earning money the only way to make use of education"? I can understand if you are in need of money but if not then why not do what makes you happy. After all, this is very precious time for a new mom. I am not against working moms as I myself am a full time working mom. But I realize that some things can never be earned in life and one such thing is memorable moments with your baby.....you will never get that time no matter how much wealth you earn.....JMO!! Good luck!!

 

hi tara,
even my parents were also of same opinion when i choose to leave my job to take care of my 1st child six years back.
but i said 'its because i am educated that i can take the right decision at right time.at this moment my child needs me .so i will do what is right for him & myself.'
well ,since then i have had my 2nd child & who is about to turn 2.now,i plan to wait for one more year & then try for job.
Just listen to ur heart.what do u want.if u are able to convince urself u will be able to give better arguments in favour of ur decision whatever u take .
BTW,i do admire u for doing job,studying for PG inspite of having 2 young kids.ur mil also sounds like a great help.make sure u thank her regularly
pragati