Is this unreasonable to ask

I feel sad to read this in this day and age. You are not unreasonable but your husband seems to be scared of his mother. try to get some elders to mediate here or try and find a seperate place to stay. dont argue or fight but get some concerned third party involved to talk to your husband and mil.
regards
chitra

 

Dear Friend,
sorry..but why not be a little sneaky here?
Its not difficult to "encourage" your husband to think about the "fun"..right?
Don't go for the straight...direct approach....!!
You know there isn't any privacy....so go right ahead!
make him drool...use all your wiles....soft glances...careless whispers...low laughter...soft touches...nice lingerie...since you know him well..you know what will make him think in the right direction.
Since there isn't any privacy..he'll think of avenues himself...maybe weekend getaways.....whatever it takes to bring out the romantic in him.
Maybe someof my fellow Ilites will be scandalised...but I don't feel sorry in creating the right mood or opportunities to be together with someone whom you love and are bound for life with....
best of luck
Regards,
Meeta

 

Dear Friend
Meeta;s reply is best. go for it
regards
chitra:-D

 

Thanks chitra)
I hope she'll share her "good" experiences...lol

errr.....maybe not all of it...on second thots....

Warm regards,
Meeta

 

I guess its a very odd situation for you and ur hubby, I am sure moving out is not an option at this point but it wud be the best solution in the long term

coming back to the immediate problem I shud first of all say u have some guts to post such a problem here so u shud use the same to get what you need

i know it might seem odd but y dont u try out odd timings like maybe ask him to take a day off and do it during the day when the other couple is not really using the room

or maybe early mornings or late nights when the rest of the members r all asleep

I know its easier said than done, but its more imp the problem in ur case privacy which is much less serious than lack of interest

so dont feel bad ppl have all the privacy and space but no desire , atleast in ur case the desire is there and when thats present privacy can be created

hope this helps and let us know what happens ..lol

 

Your situation is very very difficult.You put your point firmly with the help of elders.Do not fight.Put this problem in a more refined way.A better idea woulld be to move into a bigger place where there would place for everyone.I am sure everyone would understand.Make your husband so your problem.I do not think your unreasonable.

 

Frankly,your question is not unreasonable at all.Normally,it is the men who will be really frustrated in such a situation,it is surprising your husband is so cool.I guess it is assumed that since you have a kid,you don't need any privacy any more.

What makes this situation so difficult is the attitude of your husband.You will have to convince him,like Kanaka says,to move to a 2BHK as soon as possible.Well,maybe ,before that you will have to make it clear that you will need one bedroom for yourself.Otherwise,one bedroom might go to the BIL and the other one might go to your MIL,pls handle carefully.If finance is not an issue,why not go for a 3BHK?

 

That is very nice decision Radhika..... let us know your short term and long term solutions after you discuss this with your husband