Intercaste marriage

vipin21 · Dec 23, 2009

Hi All,

I am reading the whole blog form a very long time ,but this is my first blog that i am writing..from very few days i am very stress due to my problems.
I am a software engg and my gal friend is also software engg and we both earning 4+ lac package. now the thing is that we are in love with each other from college time its around 5 years. after completion of college we start jobs and now its around almost 2 years.I am in noida and she is in mumbai, basically we both are from Delhi only. we both are from different caste she is aggarwal and i m dhobi and very very different.now we both want to get married but her parents are against of this marriage there is no issue from my parents. now we both want to get married
1>Temple marriage
2>court marriage
Please lets us know me how to get marriage in temple and even i heard that if you proceed for court marriage...then they take one month time for the notice to be displayed on board. As if her parents come get the i information about our marriage the they will not allowing us. ....so please help me in getting this thing to happen

asuitablegirl · Dec 23, 2009

I think unless the objection is valid... why would it matter? I mean suppose some random guy has a huge crush on me and doesn't want me to get married to the person I love... so he goes to the court and says he 'objects' to my marriage. So what, just because sombody 'objected' I can't get married? That doesn't make any sense, right?

I think valid objection would be like... if the other person was found out to be still married, or found to be insane, or something like that.

Really, I feel parents objection should not have the power to stop a marriage. In the US doesn't matter if the world is outside the court house saying 'no', you can still get married. But, I don't know how it is in India, other than what I guessed above. Why don't you go to the court and ask them what exactly is a 'valid objection'. Tell them plain and simple your circumstance, and they can tell you the best way to handle things.

Good luck!

lavii · Dec 23, 2009

as both are majors and matured and earninga nd settled you can go ahead with marriage
but remember consequences and indifferences that can occur later
now as far as i have seen in my friends batches
where parents dint accept marriage they choose to do it in Aarya samaj i am not sure if you have one in nodia

pbindu · Jan 17, 2010

You can do Registered marriage. They dont display your details on Notice Board these days. Even if they do, objection if valid will be accepted. like you are married etc..

You need at least 2 witness from both sides. They have to sign in the register. You can do both, temple and registered.. Registered Marriage certificate is very much valid to get passport etc.

Now that your parents have agreed, do it as per their wishes.. If they say, we will accept if girls parents accept, then you can go for temple or register etc.. and then give a party!!

krishipriya · Aug 11, 2010

pbindu said: ↑

You can do Registered marriage. They dont display your details on Notice Board these days. Even if they do, objection if valid will be accepted. like you are married etc..

You need at least 2 witness from both sides. They have to sign in the register. You can do both, temple and registered.. Registered Marriage certificate is very much valid to get passport etc.

Now that your parents have agreed, do it as per their wishes.. If they say, we will accept if girls parents accept, then you can go for temple or register etc.. and then give a party!!
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hi,

dear friends,

i am an new member here.i have read the whole stories of evryone,so wanted to express my feelings too.atpresent i find u people r the only saviours for my life alse anyone.bcoz i too am in love with krishna who is an civil engg. and i am PG graduate.he is working .we are in love since past 6 years,fighting in my houe since past 4 years but no positive response.we are hindu vysyas and he's an hindu maala.but he is extremely very good.my parents are never understanding me,dont understand how to convience them too.my own elder brother is also completely against me.no one from my side is supportive to me.his family has agreed to our wish.but my dad is completely dependent on caste.please hep me with ur sugessions.

thank u,,

priya