Hi, we have been looking for quite a few years matches for my younger brother. he is working and in a good job. after my marriage which is always full of issues with inlaws there was a lot of distance created. me and my brother were very close but after marriage I was restricted to even talk to my parents and brother. even if I did talk there was a big blowout and inlaws would make it a serious issue and lot of quarrels. at a point I almost felt that it is better I keep distance from everyone rather than to cause trouble for them because of me. I went to India after 7 yrs with both my kids and my parents and brother were super excited to see me and the kids. i was very excited too and the feeling that i was seeing them after so many years. i felt very happy to see my brother all grown up and very responsible and taking care of everything. he made sure my stay was comfortable and no issue arise. he was like a pillar of strength for me. my husband doesn't talk to my parents or any side of mine but he talks to my brother. when talking with my brother and the proposals he has been getting of prospective girls he told me he got married secretly and introduced me to the girl. it was so shocking that i didn't know what to say. he told me the girl was with him for the last 10 yrs. when i asked him why he never mentioned it when we talked to him and asked him if he has any girlfriend or should we look into matches. he was always silent and would go away from there. everyone thought he dislikes marriage seeing all the issues in my marriage. he says he met this girl and their friendship grew over the years. he had to marry her because her relatives forced him last year which i don't understand how they can think that boys parents does not need to know . i asked the same thing to my brother and he says dad and mom wont agree. im caught up in between now. i tried talking to my mom about the girl and what she told me got me completely aghast on the situation. this girl visited my parents without my brother knowledge and talked to them and gave them a warning that if they look into any matches for him she will take serious action. my mom thinks the girl is not good character and of low moral values.