Hi all, This is my first post in this group.Not sure if I am seeking advice or venting out. Please help me. I got married almost 6 years back. We are happy with each other but problems are because of parents of both sides. I hate myself for not sorting this out before marriage as I never got chance to talk to him in person before engagement as he belongs to orthodox family. We are only 2 daughters for my parents and belong to middle class family. But my parents have educated us enough and both are working. Before marriage I am not much aware of financial status of family. Thought little bit bad but never know it's so bad. Anyway coming to story after marriage I was little bit supporting to my family and my husband was fine with that until his parents came to know this. After that he completely started blaming me for supporting. After that I got chance to go onsite. My in-laws agreed when they came to know my salary. I have sent money to my parents from there and it was some big amount. at the same time it's not more than what we are spending for my in laws (including their 2 daughters). All medical expenses of in laws are being taken care by us. We don't have savings at all. Recently my SIL got married and hubby got loan inspite of my in laws savings. They spent lavishly on wedding without much of their savings using our credit cards and all. Now my hubby started asking me to ask my parents for money which I have given when i was in US. My sister is ready for marriage and so my in laws are expecting financial help from me. I am not able to convey that my hubby is asking me to get money from them and not able to convince my hubby to wait till her marriage. If I try to say he is talking like my family is gundas and rowdies due to something happened earlier in our family. And he will say they will do harm to us also if we ask money. I am not sure how to make him know that I am grownup by them and don't have habit of touching other's money. if they are bad they should have taught me how to cheat and get money from them. He is talking like dowry is correct. Being an educated guy talking like this I am not able to bear this. Not sure how to handle this. can't a girl support her parents after marriage similar to a guy? why Indian system is like this? Please advice how to proceed on this.