Will This Marriage Work Anymore?

You know, that is manipulative in itself. I do wonder if he was really impotent or faking it for some reason. To stay in such a marriage itself is abuse. As a culture, we take on the shortcomings of the men onto ourselves and protect them.

There is not much chance for this marriage to sustain, cos he will always be angry with you for cheating and you will be angry with him for making you living a sexless marriage. You should come out of this (mutually or with a legal battle if need be). Then once that is done, you can focus on your life and move forward.

 

Let them do that.
1 your shameless husband will not marry again
2 if he does get married, I hope the new bride breaks open his impotence and shames the entire family.

 

Our Indian culture brainwashed girls to accept the God like husband . That's why you didn't disclose to anyone earlier.
See now Everyone wants to blame you

 

Hi dear, I feel bad for you. This is what the problem is when you post your problems in open forum. People get harsh n rude. And often forget that their comments can hurt the poster who is already depressed and here for genuine help/advice or even just to vent out.

In your case, mistake is on both sides. And nobody can judge anyone. It's your married life and you and your dh should sit and sort out.
If you dont want a divorce, its your wish. But if he is assassinating your character, do you think you still have respect to be his wife n vear all the insults?
First decide if you want this marriage or not since its beyond damage ccontrol.
Next, sit with your husband and talk straight ask him what does he want and tell what you want.
Based on your both feelings and thoughts, come to a mutual decision and act by it.
Best wishes.

 

Dear OP my prayers to you to stay strong and eventually lead a life that keep you happy

 

No..I didn't mean to be rude to your husband.
Since some posters were bashing you, I got overwhelmed..
His problem is also like a disability, not to be made fun of.

 

Dear , Always remember that no matter how deep a hole you find yourself in, there is always a way to come out of it. firstly I would stop with the self blaming . You are a good person, . You were unhappy and lost .Staying in this marriage you would have never been happy . The Universe had other plans for you. Please seek counseling , you are in a low phase now, but this shall pass..

 

Apart from this case, for the sake of discussion –
If impotency, a medical condition on which the person has no control is a crime, then adultery, by choice is a bigger crime at least in the eyes of god.
Worried about stigma? This was a not a traditional arranged marriage. When a person can court a person and fall in love, she has ample opportunity to ask all sorts of questions, including “Are you impotent?”
No matter what the fall out is, move away from him. It wasn't the impotency alone that led to the cheating, he was boring .... She has the right to find happiness with the Spanish guy.