Wife's Weird Behavior

No matter u give her gifts or what ever she will not behave like normal person.
She needs treatment for her delusional thinking which makes her behave crazy.

Also let us know more abt her normal interests, her behavior with kids,
Anyone she really likes and trusts?
anyone she suspects really a lot?

Why she didnt let ur mom come stay help her?

 

Its paranoia. Its clinical. Tell her that she is welcome to choose the psychologist.

 

It is clear that your wife has some severe issues because of which she is behaving this way. But I am more concerned about you because I can understand how emotionally draining it can be to be in a situation like this. I suggest you to see a psychiatrist alone and discuss these issues with the him/her. I am sure they will be able to guide you in a proper way. Also, you should take good care of yourself. My best wishes to you.

 

Really feeling sorry for the pain you are going through. Hats off to you, you are managing all you responsibilities towards your kids and wife so well.
Well, I am not so good in giving advice like all wonderful Ilites here, in fact I myself seek help here.
But, when I was thinking about the situation and reading all other replies, yes somehow you have to convince your wife and take her to psychiatrist.
Is it possible to find any of her best old friend through social media or something and tell that friend to convince your wife?
Or is it possible tell your father in law to redo "will" so that she get lost love on him just for her treatment sake. You can promise him at any cost you are not interested in his property and he can redo it back once she recovers. Or if you have any savings can give him some money without your wife knowledge so that he can give it to other daughters. Just my thoughts. Take care.

 

Dear op,
can you tell us one thing, is she having mood swings, in the sense that two extreme moods - sometimes too happy and active and sometimes when she complains she is very sad and negative about everything.. because if she is constanly in same mood, then it can be her nature but if its like a waves of happy/energy/postivie vs sad/depressed/negative then there is an imbalance.. Im not a professional here but im one who experienced all these things in life and came out with professional help.. not fully out
but partially..

 

sorry wrong post

 

Honestly there are always two sides to every story. Of course we only know what you are telling us, and we believe it on good faith.

Why is your wife acting normal to your children and her father (till recently) and not everyone else. Maybe she is the type of person who attracts bullies and people who take advantage of her for her entire life, and now she can lash out on you.

You mention she has control of your finances, hence she is able to humiliate you in public.

Remember, Money = Power

As for Social Media causing cracks in relationships, that is what any slightly above average person understands. More people are moving away from it to face reality, the people, places, situations in front of them, not some la la land.



I don't think your wife is mentally sick at all, there is another underlying issue..... plus she's probably been raised in environment where wife is treated like a doormat. Even Indian serials can infuriate the most calm person!


I wish you all the best.

 

Chennaiexpress
I have seen very close relative. His wife always thought same that he dont have psychological.
She used to ask why he gets spying doubt only on her parents not on his own parents.why not on his own brothers.

Well reason is that person problem hasnt gone severe, this paranoia or delusional disorder is hard to understand and digest.
Now at 55 he went to a stage that he filled police complaints on all neighbors and her parents saying they plan to harm him and spy.

May be Op wife dont have any psychological issue just tantrums but its better to get that confirmed.

 

Dear Op

Thanks for writing all details.
So basically for some or other reason ur wife has cut down communication with her side and ur side family.
Lets say okay she has some genuine reasons and lot of ladies loose touch with friends at this time.

But why she refuses to let ur friends come home for dinner or lunch.so basically no friends gatherings
So her life is home, taking care kids,clean house.

Do u guys het invitations from relatives for functions do u go?
If u make a plan to visit some place or some yatra will she come with u for few days outside?
I can write in detail abt my close cousin on how his behvaior changed and how he got treated.

When u talk start like this
Tell her everyone has misunderstandings etc with family that doesnt mean she cut all ties.
Since she is stressed and getting frustration and its good to visit psychologist who can give some counselling.
say the way she behaves saying ppl spying and behaving bad on road or while driving is not normal.