I just returned from a engagement function in a far relative family. Wedding is in February. Everything they did hurry-hurry , seeing groom, meeting the family, agreeing to conditions etc. The girl has not yet graduated, still studying,and just 20 years . If they had waited and seen more alliances, they could have got an even better boy for her. Why so much hurry we all asked. They said the girl's grandmother wanted to see the granddaughter's wedding before she died itseems. so she forced them to hurry up. This grandmother is 88 years old, but is not ill or in hospital ! She's in ok health, but just thinks she'll die anyday,so she wants to see the girl's wedding, so the poor young girl, just to satisfy her grandmother, has to cut short her own dreams and plans and get married to the first groom they found. Isn't that cruelty ! I was very upset. Why do old people think only their satisfaction is important ? And , more than that, what difference to the old lady after her death whether she saw the wedding or not ? Why do old people make their Death a weapon to blackmail others ? They say old people have wisdom. I cannot see any wisdom in this case. what do you think ?