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Why I Have Become Like This....

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by fourthaugust, Feb 17, 2017.

  1. fourthaugust

    fourthaugust Silver IL'ite

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    This beautiful morning got me thinking this today(nothing special today,just the same busy morning with two kids), why I have become so negative. After all I have everything to lead a peaceful and happy life.
    A handsome man by my side, two beautiful kids, very helping parents, two understanding siblings, comfortable life , good education, good health.
    Why do I get so irritated at small small things, like just now scolded my elder son for something very petty or whined for good half an hour over phone with my mom that how my little one keeping me awake all night.
    God...I cant help but feeling miserable all the time everyday for something or the other.
    I used to be a very energetic , happy and always smiling girl. What has happened to that girl. Have I grown up? Is this what it meant to be grow up?
    Does this happen with everyone or its just me who is being ungrateful to the God by nagging continuously.
    I really need to come out of this misery, but the good thing is that now I am aware of this ,I will keep a very close watch on my temper.
    I just hope to come out of this phase as soon as possible.
     
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    shyamala1234 Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear fourthaugust,
    I think you need some counselling sessions with a counsellor fot anger management.
    It does not happen with everyone when your life sounds and looks perfect. People around you also feel miserable with this temper if yours. They do not have any other go exceot tolerating. Atleast for the sake of family you should go to a counsellor .lateryou also would be happy. Everyone gets angry now and then but that is shortlived. But if it is a constant thing think seriously and try to get rid of it.
    Syamala
     
  3. fourthaugust

    fourthaugust Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks mam..I will look into this.
     
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    shifas Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear @fourthaugust
    Are you a working woman? If your answer is yes then i also second the above post. You should go for counselling. Temper can really affect us and others near to u too. If you are not a working woman then i would suggest you to luk for a job. And if it is not possible give your time to find interesting hobbies or keeping a pet or by finding time to go for a walk daily with someone whom u like. I feel that more than the temper problems the feeling that you have changed that should be changed first. This feeling will constantly hold u down everytime. Have faith in GOD. And keep smiling. Invite friends or neighbours over to ur house for dinner. Keep yourself super busy. Try gardening
    Dont waste time thinking ☺☺☺☺☺
     
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    fourthaugust Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks
    I used to work. Left the job to once had my second baby. Now I am at home ties down with an infant and preschooler, seriously sleep deprived without any help. Hubby goes in the morning comes back in the evening.
    Life is not only mnotonous but tough too.
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    Sometimes vitamin deficiencies (Vit D, Vit B12 etc) & hormonal imbalances also create these type of problems....go for a proper blood test & follow doctor's advice.
     
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    fourthaugust Silver IL'ite

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    thanks but i am taking vitamin calcium etc.
     
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    Lady1 Silver IL'ite

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    Get yourself that badly needed help. Hire a nanny to come and help you during the day to manage the kids, to prep for food and with light housework (just laundering the kids clothes).
    You will feel much better soon. Engage her once in two weeks to go out with your husband in the evening- dinner, movie...
    Ask your mom to make food for you once a week, if she lives close by.
    Go for nail and hair care every month.
    Get a massage.

    These are not only for the super affluent but necessary at your stage of life to keep your sanity.
    You may not need to go to anger management
    Good luck!
     
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    Nowi can understand the situation better. You have too much to do. This makes you stressed out. I find it very difficult to manage just one kid and household chores. So i can imagine with two how wud u be doing. You must get help from someone. Otherwise this will not end soon. You just need time to relax a bit. Get help from your parents otherwise.
    God bless.
     
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    ManuManasa New IL'ite

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    Hey I had this phase last year..I had everything why I am doing this..Wat I did is I went to yoga 1 hr..Twice a week .. Swimming once ..And did some 10 k challange...Apart from all ...I took off from work and stay with mom one n half month..complete rest for my mind...No thinking no stress...That made me back to normal...I..Didn't had any counseling I jus shared everything with my fren n get rid of all my stress n went movies vth her n shopping off course
     
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