Whose mistake??

I was having my cuppa by standing in the balcony and looking at the garden nearby. We have a small garden in our house. The garden consists of banian tree,coconut tree,mango tree, rose plants, chrysanthemum plants and some other plants too. It is one of the happiest moments to have a look at these greens by having a cup in your hand. I really loved it. But this is not a topic of this post. So I come to the point now. My neighbor’s son was also standing there. At that time, milk man came. They used to buy milk from him. So on seeing him, the boy poked his head into his house, and told to his mom,” amma palkaran vandhutan”(milkman has come, but he told it disrespectfully).The milkman was about 50 years old. Thank God, he didn’t hear his words; just think about it, what he would felt, if he heard the boy’s words. I was really annoyed by his words. But his mom didn’t show any sign that his boy spoke some illiterate words. She was very casual and told,”yes I come” and went to buy milk. Where we are lacking actually????

On the other day, I went to one of my distant relative’s house. There, her 8 years old was talking with his uncle. The uncle was a college student. He pretended to ask questions playfully. Look at their conversation.

U: Whats your teachers name da???
B: Aarthi uncle.
Uo u like ur teacher???
B: Yes uncle, I like her so much??
U: Is she married???
B: No
U: Then no problem, I would correct her..
B: No uncle ,it(teacher) wont suit you. leave her(vitudu mama,adhellam unaku saripadadhu)

I was :rant. God, where these kids get all these ideas..

This boy, who is studying in his eleventh std came to me to ask some doubts in Mathematics. He is studying in the govt school .Me, being me, as usual asked some questions about his schools, teachers, friends. When he told about his teachers, he told that one of his school teacher often call the students by their nick names. That too, the nick name would be given by the teacher himself. If anybody wear specs, he would call him as ‘sodabutti’ or ‘kannadi’(means specs),if anybody looks chubby, he call them as ‘Gundu’ etc ….I was really shocked by hearing it.. So as the teacher, so the students. The students also call them by the nicknames in their teacher’s way. Being in a responsible job, see how he acts. It made me really worry.

So, whose mistake is this? Is this the mistake of the single soul. Nope. Every one of us, here making mistakes. It’s the responsibility of everyone, I,You,She ,He every one has to answer it. We should definitely change our way, to raise our children, be it in school or in home. First of all, we have to change ourselves. If we speak anything ill about others in home/school, then our children also would follow the same. We have to be very careful about our words and actions.
I called my neighbor boy and showed his mistake and told how the way he has to call the elders. He told “hereafter I wont do it, sorry aunty(yeah this promotion, I got ,after my girl’s arrival)”.

 

Yes sreema, you are correct..but nowadays parents miss their personal times with their children..this fast fast world doesnt allow them to sit and talk with them...

 

Malar,U are correct...should bring the change in ourselves before we correct them....

 

Thanks ice, for stepping in....

yes I too feel worried whenever somebody says "velakkari"....
yes this is one of the tactics to make the kid speak respectfully..

so learn all these things, it would be helpful to u oneday:thumbsup

 

Thanks Satchi, for dropped by...
yes, I might havent got sleep, if I havent told him:bonk