Who Is Our Real Enemy ?

SinghManisha · May 3, 2019

I must be totally living under a rock. Most women ( and most men) I know have been most supportive, not at all insecure or jealous.

Amulet · May 3, 2019

SGBV said: ↑

Sharing a case that i have recently come across.

This woman A and her husband B had a love marriage a decade back and had 2 kids together.
B had changed with time or A was not smart enough to know the real B before marriage.
Their marriage lost its meaning.
There were lots of misunderstanding and distance between the couple.

A had to work so hard to keep the marriage alive for the sake of the society, though the root has already died.

No love, no affection, no sex, no care or friendship between them and it became normal as time passes. Each lived like roommates by doing their responsibilities as parents under the same roof.

A looked very old at the age of 35 and lost interest in maintaining her weight or looks. She was just surviving.
Also there were rumours that B is getting closer with one of his female buddy at work, which A was aware of... But did not do much as both wanted this marriage for their kids and society. Both dreaded divorce or to fave their conservative society after that.

Several years passed, and there was no change in their life. That's when A found her soul mate through a readers club online.
Their friendship was the only string that made her to cherish her life and live it with a meaning. She has starred to bring a lot of changes in her body, mind and even the way she approached life.

This man - lets call him C, was also leading a pointless marriage with his cousin who became his wife due to his parents pressure. He loves her like a sister but never felt anything beyond it seems.

A lives here in my home country and C lives in Swiss.

Their online friendship slowly blossomed to an affair, and it turned to physical when A and B met for the first time in Dubai in an organized meeting.
( on the pretext of going for an official training)
From that point onwards both of them meet in a 3rd country like twice a year for max 1 week.

This gave A the much needed courage to walk out of her dead marriage and face whatever the blame her H and the society threw at her with class.

A could never get this courage to move out in the first place to find love or live all over again. So, it was her luck that she met C while she was still married to B. This changed her life forever.
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LOL.... One algebraic mishtake can cost you that centum!

MrCroc · May 6, 2019

anika987 said: ↑

View attachment 259251 Nowadays..Women are very intellegent,more confident and doing so much in life..kudos!

However..There have been many a times I have faced and am sure you all would have faced the crab mentality situations..Many have come from other women..

Be it when it comes to competitiveness regards looks,dressing,education,job,realationships etc...has any other women affected you badly?In my case many a times..

On a lighter note..even in IL we have more questions on mother in law being a problem rather than father in law

Men are not perfect and not supporting them here in any way but when we talk about womenhood why do you think it is so tough to be supportive and actually be happy for the other women?

Again..we all are supportive in many ways and have good friends and realtionships yes..but generally
I have always felt women need to be more understanding and support each other more often..

I may be talking from my life perspective and experiences..I may not be right too.It is my observation generally many a times..have you ever felt this way?
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Ha Ha Ha!

Our big secret is out !

We guys couldn't have setup our 'patriarchy' without constant support from women themselves!

That said, I never understand why do women help us at all in compromising other women... Co-workers sabotaging their own fellow women, mother in laws keeping daughter-in-laws in check, aunties of colony throwing dirt on other aunties and especially their daughters... Never made sense to me. But then I stopped bothering.

heron · May 15, 2019

On the diverted topic first: why is not anyone seeing the 'affair' from the betrayed spouse/chidren's side? What ever the reason, how much ever 'emotionally legit' it seems, one has NO RIGHT to take someone else who trust you on a ride.....

You have got plastic balls to do it...now get some real balls ( empower yourself!) and say it.
Spouses and kids have the right to chose what relationship they should be in...give it!

On the original topic: Any one who is looking for a soulfully happy life knows the trick. There are always people like these and we know when we are around them.Rest, just accept and move on.