hello ladies I am not happy with my married life..Coming from an upper middle class family , I got married to a family who claim to be upper middle class and claim to share similar values.. I am disappointed with my husband and in laws. They dont consider me as a family member even after 4 years of marriage. My in laws act like they are very old, there thinking style is very old. MIL is 50 and FIL 59. My parents are in the same age range but are much modern in their outlook. My in laws always talk like they are too old and will die anytime. They make fun of me if I call my husband by name. They dont want me to work , they wont call me or inform me regarding anything related to them or my husbands cousins. We stay abroad and when I ask my husband why they never call, my husband says they are old. Come on ..my parents are in the same age range . My in laws dont celebrate anniversaries , marriages, birthdays etc.. \ they dont have any energy, they dont do anything in life other than eat and sleep. THEY DONT HAVE FRIENDS . they have the money but they dont travel. I cant relate to them at all. I feel they are living in a different world. Why are they so backward? My in laws like to show off though they are so backward mind wise. they like to wear expensive clothes, ornaments , phones etc.. My husband never said about any of this before or after marriage. I cant relate with my husband as well . he is also like them. He has enough salary which he spends only on sarees and bags for me.. I dont want those stuff. I am also working . I prefer chocolates and teddies . According to him investing on travel or a buying a flat or plot now is not good. He is living in 1940's. we are young but my husband is like an old man. I am not happy with my life. what should I do. My background, my parents. my friends we all travel once or twice a year. we celebrate even small things.