Where This Married Life Is Taking Me To??

Dear IL's,
I have been married for 8 years and I have a kid aged 4yrs old. As my DH is working in gulf country, me and kid moved with him last yr. it's been 1.5 years we r staying together. Previously I was staying in India in my father house with my kid. My in laws are cruel to me and my kid as I had a love cum arranged marriage which they didn't like.
Now the problem is, i have no frnds or family in this place. I have thyroid, pcod, nerves issues after c section. After a big struggle I had my baby. Now I don't have the previous energy or good health. I always feel tired and body pain 24/7.
Kid is going to school and doing very average at school.
DH leaves home at 7 and come home by 8.. sometimes 9 or even later. Some days he come by 7.30.. even after coming home he doesn't spend time with the kid.. he keeps using his mobile phone.. like when entering the house itself he would be watching some videos or movies or some chattings.. on seeing him the kid gets excited and runs to him.. but he shouts at the kid in a very rude manner.. then the kid cries and he immediately gets throat ache and cough next day.. after coming here kid is always having dry cough and we doing nebuliztion for that. This health issue of kid is already putting me into stress.. because of this dusty weather, kid is often getting infection and dry cough with wheeze.. but DH is like until he goes to sleep he would be using phone only.. while eating also the same thing.. he doesn't speak to me also other than jut asking something for his needs. Also during weekends he just sleeps till 12 noon and after that fully mobile.. on one holiday his screen time was near to 7hrs 23 min at night 7pm.. I was shocked to see this notification.. he also always shouts at kid if the kid ask him to come for play.. he doesn't help me with household chores.. also he loves going to clubs and some cinema award shows.. he somehow get phone numbers from girls there and start watsapp chattings.. I fought with him so many times regarding this.. but no change in his behavior and he never realize his m

 

He never realize his mistakes also.. if the kid goes to him, he plays some cartoons for him in tv and then he will be with his mobile.. my health issues, staying at home without job, no friends or family, kids health issue and DH behavior...... all these r putting me into so much of mental stress.. I don't know where iam going in this married life.. very much confused or scared about the future of me and kid.. what can I do to get a peace of mind?? Plz advice

 

Dear Anika,
Thanks for the reply.
His parents are very cruel in nature. Even now they would be happy to remarry their son to somebody and get a huge amount of dowry.. they doesn't want me to live with their son.. I made a mistake by believing him and marrying him.. ours is a love marriage.. actually I did not want to marry him because of his rude behavior which I had seen when we were in a relationship.. but he promised that he would not be like that after marriage, that's why I married him. But ever since I married him, iam struggling with his rude behavior.. my parents are very much aware of his and his parents character.. but they doesn't want me to end this married life.. because they are from a very conservative family and they don't like this divorce and living separately.. I had a very good job in a top Indian MNC before marriage.. but now it's been more than 6 years since in quit my job.. frankly speaking there is no positivity in this relationship.. and I do not want to continue living in this kind of atmosphere with the kid because iam afraid what the kid would think on seeing all these.. but as I do not have a job for myself iam not able to take a decision for now.. so iam thinking what can I do to make the present situation better..

 

I would like to share some incidents here,
Recently during a festival, DH did not buy dress for me and kid.. but he bought for himself.. I had a new dress for kid already at home.. DH dressed up and celebrated by going out and didn't take us with him.
I had a infection on thumb finger 4 months back.. and the finger was swollen and filled with yellow pus. We went to hospital by taking the kid also and there kid was running here and there., I asked him to look after the kid as I had pain on finger.. but he was checking his mobile..and when asked he started fighting with me.. so I came back home without consulting doc..the next day I had fever and went again..
Whenever he fights with me, he uses really bad words calling me and never ask sorry for that later.
Each time a fight happens because of DH behavior, but he would not talk to me after that.. I myself will go to him and talk and make the relationship work..
Whenever the kid gets fever, he would not even touch the kid and check.. he can't talk to the kid, can't play with the kid, can't take him outside, can't help in taking are of thekid, can't spend time with the kid....etc etc

 

Dear laks,
Thanks for the positive reply
I joined a Zumba class 5 months back and was doing for 2 months.. but kids health issue is putting stress on me and I couldn't continue the class.. sending the kid to school 5 days in a week continuously without taking leave is a big task for me.. as he often gets dry cough and cold

 

I will definitely do this