You also probably don’t buy one of each of the kinds you get for mom/sibling. Which is what the OP has been doing. It isn’t easy or cost effective or necessary but she’s trying to break out of the pattern - a push in the right track was to remind her of the kids she needs to save for and the suggestion to revisit financial priorities. When mom didn’t have sarees, that sungudi saree was precious. Now, with a wardrobe full of silk sarees, the next one is just another saree to add to the wardrobe. Unless one is earning and buying these things oneself, the surplus things just reduce the value or the gift giver.