Dear Friends, On my husband's side, we are parents in law, hubby+me+child (and hubby's sister+husband+child). We used to stay as a joint family with my parents in law with the house being theirs but we (hubby & I ) paying all the bills including all the groceries, paid for the renovation of the entire 2 storey house, etc. All this by the instructions of my parents in law. And during my entire stay there not even for 5 minutes did my MIL help take care of my child. I was on the verge of falling apart handling the child on my own since she did not allow me to employ a babysitter/ maid as well. At that point of time, my life was such that we would have had to stay in that city and that house forever. However, with the turn of events, a couple of years back we shifted to another city (the city where my family stays) due to hubby's work requirement. My hubby's sister however stays there during her entire vacation, MIL has been babysitting her child since the beginning, in fact she stayed 1 full school year with my PIL when she got her child admitted to a school there. Since her husband was abroad. And last year when my FIL had a severe life & death situation, believe me... neither my MIL stayed with him in the hospital nor did my SIL visit him once to check on him. My husband and I did all his nursing on our own. And when he recovered and returned home, they started not only gushing all over him but also convincing him how it was in his best interest that these 2 ladies stayed away during the entire illness period! Now on my side, I had been helping in my family business initially but eventually started retreating slowly... with my bro's marriage, his child, etc. Periodically, I had been paid my share and several times even more than my share of profit, out of love & affection and I am thankful for all that. In general too, my family is a very helpful family and feels for others easily. There is my bed ridden grandparent in the house and there is a very strong-headed, egoistic, almost non-cooperating kind of attendant for the grandparent. My brother's wife and the attendant can chat/ gossip for hours together but she never instructs the attendant to do anything as she doesn't want to fall in the attendant's bad books! My parents are soft spoken and can never exercise authority. So in the interest of the grandparent, my brother always asked me to talk to and instruct the attendant. Now,my brother and his family want to go on a long holiday to a very distant place. Leaving the responsibility on my shoulders. I was sweet-talked into it all and was not even aware they are planning any such thing. So gullible me! Now I feel bad and hurt. I feel everyone takes me for granted, makes a fool of me. I am fed of all the responsibilities and I am emotionally incapable of handling all this. Am I being selfish ? How should I handle it all? All this work has been affecting my mental health and ruining my physical health as well. I feel hurt that people almost like "use"me. Please guide!