I know you addressed your comment to Preethi, but just let me say, you can't wait around for society to change on it's own. If you want something, go get it! Like the saying "We must be the change we wish to see in the world." Honestly, if you can't stand up for yourself and make your feelings known, then nobody else will be able to help you. We ladies can give you moral support and tell you that you are right, but what you do with that information is up to you. Yes, "big drama" is a pain to deal with, but you have to decide what is more painful to you.... dealing with mil/sil temper tantrums or living life without the second child you wanted. I really feel you need to find your courage and stop letting other people's bad behavior dictate your life. Just my opinion.