What Type Of Mocks And Remarks In A Funny Way, We Can Let Go

Don't let anything go. Hold on to each and every insult like it is a precious jewel. When the times comes and the person is down, retaliate. Never let them forget they insulted you and put you down. They shall regret it for the rest of their lives. As for who is insulting and who is just being playful, we all know the difference. Once you have put them down, they shall never think of insulting you again, playfully or otherwise.

 

Of course, people only mock those they can afford to mock. People, especially in India, are scared of those who have money and power. Trying mocking somebody who is rich and powerful in India, they will kick the sh*t out of you. Of course, nobody in India shall be foolish enough to make this mistake. Everybody knows everybody else's status and are keen not to offend those they may need. You are a sensitive soul. Try not to take it to heart. Make yourself stronger. Learn to answer back. Make them pay for what they did to you and make them think twice before they open their mouth again.

It will be different in the West. Try not to get too involved with Indians. This forum is full of people whose interactions with Indians abroad have gone awry. Don't rely on Indians too much. Be cautious in the beginning and only open yourself gradually. Don't get excited if you meet Indians in your locality. Limit your interactions with Indians to this forum. In the West, nobody has the right to comment on your personal life. Just focus on yourself, your husband and your career if you happen to be working.

Yes, it's very important to choose friends wisely. Don't take the entire world as a potential friend. There are many snakes in the grass. Learn to be self-sufficient. Take advantage of your new-found freedom in the West. If you live in a nice area, go on long walks in public parks or nature reserves. Start reading books and watching movies by yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. If you are happy within yourself, what people say outside is less likely to spoil your mood.

PS: Here is a good article explaining why human beings tease each other.

PPS: Please quote my posts if you are responding to me. Otherwise, I do not get a notification.

 

When the jokes become uncomfortable or hurtful, it is time to act. There are people who won't take you seriously, and think you are overreacting. Depending on how close (or how often you need to see them), address the issue and let them know that it's uncomfortable for them to bring those topics into normal conversation. This may need to be a private conversation, so they would take your request seriously. If you can easily get rid of them from your life, then don't even bother trying to make them understand.

The main thing is, you KNOW where your line is, so it is up to you to act accordingly. In my personal life, people don't mess around with me, because (1) I don't laugh at their mocking jokes (laughing at the joke makes them think it's ok for them to say it) or (2) I stare them down so hard, it makes the people who they are trying to entertain, feel uncomfortable. When I visit India, I have noticed that the teasing is far more brutal, and people just don't take a hint. That's why it's important to stay calm, but very firm, that it's not ok.

 

Yes, India is a whole another ball game. They take teasing to another level. Very difficult to survive here. They also don't realise that staring is rude. They stare and stare and stare. The entire country needs a lesson in etiquette.

 

I am assuming it is Indians who are doing this. Westerners are rarely so bold.