What To Do? Need To Ask Vacation Again, At Work For India Trip

Please don’t hate me for saying this , but honestly you need to change your attitude towards your work. Irrespective of whether your contract gets extended or not you should not abandon ship during a release ! the right thing to do is to finish the work assigned to you and leave on a good note.

Have immense gratitude for all the big and small jobs that You have done and all the people that have hired you. Not doing justice to a position one is hired for is really unfortunate, some other well deserving candidate could have taken up that job and done really well. In this economy where getting a job is hard lot of people would be grateful for even the short term projects you are doing. Respect your work , respect people that supervise you and respect people that you supervise. Good work ethics will always be beneficial in the long run.

Going on several extended vacations back to back is not the norm , specially during deadlines.

I feel for your manager. I really do.

P.S apologies if my reply sounds harsh, feel free to ignore.

 

As far as I remember, didn’t you have some similar post last year when you were blaming your team , manager , work and justifying your decision to go on a vacation in the middle of a release ? You come across so bitter with everything in your life . Your job sucks , you have a horrible team , people should have thought that your back and forth trips are going to be so expensive but 5-6 grade exams are not so important (seriously ??). Btw , if everything is so wrong with your job and if you think you are so good at what you do , why didn’t you quit long back for good . You should be thankful that your project keeps getting extended . I have never seen someone complaining about having a job . You spend way too much time and energy in finding excuses and blaming everyone but I think it’s you who needs some serious lessons on work ethics first ! Feel free to ignore my post if it’s not what you meant to hear .

 

Your husband goes to India to attend the wedding, and you stay back with your child if he is unable to take care of her on the trip. A niece's wedding is different from a sibling's in that respect. Since it's his side they will be happy even if just he goes. Be careful not to burn your bridges at work.

 

@sanjuruby3 depending on what your circumstance is, you need to decide if you "need" the job or if you "have" to go to India. It is dependent on how badly you need the job, IMO.

About taking off in the middle of release etc., I wouldn't think too much about it, because at the end of the day, it is a job. If something of higher priority comes along, this definitely takes a back seat. Now what is that higher priority - it is for you to decide. If you feel close enough to a husband's cousin that you should attend their wedding, that makes it higher priority. No one else can decide if a sister's wedding is more important than a cousin's wedding but you. Work is a contract, you are paid for what you do, neither you nor the employers are doing each other any favors... so there really is no need to feel guilt about asking to take time off, especially if you are a contractor. Also about extension, they need you, so they are extending your contract. It is definitely not out of some philanthropic motive. Yes, you taking time off at a crucial time of the project may reflect negatively on your performance review or future extensions or conversion or whatever. But that's just like any action has a consequence. While it is generally good that you are grateful for the small blessings in life (like having a job, being disease-free, being alive etc.), there is no need to specifically be thankful to individual hiring managers or companies that gave you a job. They hired you because you have a skill they need and you need them because they pay you for the work. So your decision on whether you want to go ask for time off to go to India should depend on how much you need the job.

 

It's ur husbands niece. He can go to.india. why do u need to travel with kids again..

 

@sanjuruby3 while considering marriage dates we look into convenience of many around. i don’t know if you are talking about the groom/bride’s exams or kids in 5th grade exams but the norm in most families is to look at holiday or vacation times for marriage dates. if this is the first marriage in the next gen on your h’s side probably others have kids in school and wouldn’t May be more convenient with kids having school holidays. sometimes it is about the majority. if the marriage was fixed and only dates were not confirmed in your presence, you could have added an request up front that you would like to attend the marriage but too close to this visit would be hard on you.

when your priority is you, your kid, then why can’t others think of their kids.

you need to really need to reevaluate the kind of attitude you have put across in the above post.. i ageee with @Sandycandy. i have been trying to help a few friends’ with jobs and we are finding it so hard. rs 6k for a 8hr shift take it or leave it was a response from a company that one of them attended.