I'm 32 years old now.So after 12 years of married life and 3 years of this on going current issue,finally my husband sent a legal notice couple of days ago. The issue is 'trust'. Since when he started suspecting me? Almost 4 years ago, I was living abroad for 15 months for my education. Few party pics and chat messages. My husband seen everything and since then everyday was hell. We have twins. I quit job my couple of months ago because he wanted me to be financial dependent on him(in order to save our marriage I agreed to quit) There were a lot of mental torture during those days. High level verbal abuse. A big mistake... few months ago a severe fight combined with verbal abuse(he always calls me prostitute) I was bottled up with all my anger and threw a toy at him and he started bleeding and got two stitches. He complained at the police station and the case been closed as I gave a apologize letter and assurance -no in anyway I repeat,however I want me husband and kids to live as a family. Legally things were settled,still my husband wasnt convinced and started assassinating my character to his parents and family that I have some affair and thats why I was trying to kill him also stated that I would elope anytime and they created more problem.And also they wanted me to quit my job and prove my husband is wrong. Now.... I came to my parents place for my kids holidays,no communication between me and h. He is not answering my calls(even if my father and mother calls). He is not bothered about kids also. Financially I'm managing with my little savings until now. A small background.... Ours was a love marriage(he proposed me I accepted and told my parents and got married,not so lovey dovey). He had huge debts to pay off (like 10 lacs). We moved abroad soon after wedding and understood about my husband very lately. I regret my decision,and accepted the fact. Sex life wasnt great too. He would be sluggish most of the time. He snores a lot,I mean literally a lot and most of the night i sleep in the next room. After 3 years of wedding with one year of failure in TTC, finally discovered that he has lowest count and zero motility. Underwent two infertility treatments as husband was not ready to improve the condition with medications. With one failure treatment IVF made us parent of wonderful twins(g/b). Legal notice... Seeing the legal notice myself and my parents were shocked beyond words and husband is not reachable anytime. I was suppose to go to my maternity home which is in another city by next week and all of a sudden this legal notice been sent. I dont want to go for mutual. Im here now looking for suggestions to prove that I need my husband. 1. Can partying pics be pushed to adultery? 2. This happened almost 4 years ago,in anther country(Australia), Can this still be a strong evidence towards adultery? 3. My husband's infertile issues,Can I make this as a supporting event to prove that his low complex is hallucinating trust issues? Pls suggest me what should I do to save this marriage. I'm so much worried and confused as I didnt expect this scene in my life.What will I do with my 8 year old kids.I'm emotionally and financially drained.