What is the REALITY ???? Return to India...

Everything that you've mentioned I do! Maybe I'm a little less sociable than you but I did go through the terrible loneliness abroad so I understand. Something in us that craves what we have here. And if you can afford it, all the luxuries you mentioned. If you can't, then too, it is possible to live a good fulfilled life. And so much is available here. The material, consumerist lifestyle yes. But if you want that little peace for your soul? Ashrams, temples, functions, bhajans. And you can strike up conversations with people too. We are all so interested in others and helpful. As much me time as you can make for yourself....So, I hope your dreams come true.

 

I am not from India but I am just interjecting: when I am in India, folks coming and going non-stop for me also, phone ringing, visiting, meeting new people, affordable trips to museums, facial, hair salon, lunches out. Even for me, India is far less lonely place than USA.

 

Anika- you really love to live in India that even the traffic noise is endearing to you. You should seriously consider going back. If you have kids, go back while they are small so that they are not too uprooted. The older they get, the harder it could be.

Life is too short not to live it fully.

 

Hi Anika , if you really go back to India then do so! Yes ! we are missing all the
opportunities . This is a dream indeed.

 

I was looking at my tambram friend's wedding pics....I was teasing him about coming to his wedding naked.......

 

Ha ha your husband seems like me- not shirtless part - but I too have issues of privacy. I like the fact that here I only needed someone to come in to help keep house clean only once a week.

And to be frank, even before I came here, I never visited someone before checking if it was a good time for them. I remember as a child, people dropping by just when we had planned to go somewhere fun and even though everyone of us were dressed to go out, refused to take hint and sit and chat. It always ended up with parents being polite and being gracious host and us kids mad.

To me there is also another aspect to informing before coming- it give the host to be prepared. Plus frankly I don't want someone at my door step when I am arguing with my husband or otherwise having a bad day or not in mood to entertain.

I think among all my Indian friends, I am the only one who loves the peace and quite of suburban life. I always wanted a home on an acre or two but all my friends love the city living in a condo and for most NYC is the ultimate dream(and one cannot pay me to live with shared walls or in hustle and bustle of city life ) . I think in the end it is all what one is used to.