What is the real meaning of marriage?

Marriage is a big celebration in all our lives.Our parents struggles a lot to make it happen.
After Marriage understand is important between two different minds to become one thought.

Some time it may be one way. Either husband will dominates or Wife may be.
But One person should allow that domination or others thoughts.

I vote for women should lead after the marriage.

 

Hi

The very fact that the thread is kept active and alive for more than six months indicates the significance of it

My two pennies worth ....

Scriptures say the person who takes seven steps together with you, becomes your soulmate.. your partner in good and bad, sickness and health ....., I consider marriage to be an evolved friendship.

This friendship needs to evolved with, without and in spite of various limiting factors... acceptance, adaptation, love, compromise, integrity, identity, understanding and emotional interdependence

The unique bond needs to develop and is strengthened with time...

Best Regards

 

For a man, its having a full time attendant who will wash your clothes, clean your drawers, put your shoes in the rack, prepare food, entertain friends and guests and fulfill the egoist needs of his parents.......and in this process let yourself die everyday.....because you have given him kids too, you cannot leave him.....but you will have to leave your parents.....you are not more tahn a slave
YOU unknowingly become full time servant forgetting about your favourite pastimes......no sleep no reading no music no tv.
Also whatever you earn ...you must give that also.....because as a ardhangini....its your responsibility to share his loans and you should be ready to give explaination of where you have spent money he had given you and you will come to know that you spent more than he gave you....surprisingly he will not believe you and treat you as a thief.

In this entire years of togetherness MARRIAGE to a woman means ending her life forever........

 

sorry for being so negative.....

 

Ohh...seems like you had some bad experiences in your married life...

 

We all have been there..no worries
But in a way, what you wrote is true, many feminist authors have said this...
don't get caught up in negativity, all the time...only once in a while

 

You are not alone.

On second thoughts look at marriage in a practical way. It is for continuation of species and enjoyment of physical relationship in a limited way. Then life overtakes you with responsibilities towards bring up children and so on. All that soulmate stuff is pure advertisement to entice the men and women into this prison of marriage. Well, marriages seem inevitable for an orderly society. But it will evolve for sure.

I have been thinking taking a clue from OSHO how a simple ceremony (of marriage) makes two people lose their freedom even as everyone cheers this event. And the whole world talks of freedom!

Maybe for the first 7 or 9 years the marriage can hold good; the itch setting in any time. Then life really gets you!

Then what you have written is what we experience! We need to think creatively on how to solve the many drawbacks and put an end to all negativity leading to a wonderful life!

The mosuo lifestyle is perhaps one such answer! Is there any other?

 

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Joseph Campbell"
that is the quote from your signature.
Nice quote

 

Lately, I have a strong feeling that marriage is about 'bringing up children' in safe environment.
One person, gives more..usually the women, which is okay because in the long run (we live longer - there's a long run) we get returns on our investments.

 

Perfect marriage is where a man and woman leave their past families, friends, and "cleave onto each other" (Matthew 19:5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?)

Marriage is a covenant where man and woman join not only physically, but emotionally, and spiritually.

Physically - no need for viewing p0rn to get ideas, inner love drives physical attachment. Ever hear of tantric (How to Pull Off Tantric Sex) No rush, it is a combination of physical, emotional, and spiritual bonding. No 1-2-3, then boredom.

Man and Woman guide each other in their Spiritual journey to reach God.

The output of this divine love is children who will carry on the tradition.


Later societies treated marriage like business deal, i.e. who gets what property, who inherits what. This bring IL into the picture. This is NOT how humans are meant to live.