What Is Moral, What Is Immoral And What Is The Line Between Them

Inspired by the various POVs of my recent thread which discussed about my colleagues' companionship with a guy, I am starting this thread to discuss the same matter in general...

Let's all be honest here!!

1. Have you ever had crushes after marriage? It can be with one person or many
2. Have you ever felt connected (emotionally to be more precise) with the opposite gender at any given point after marriage? Again, can be with one person, or different persons at different timelines
3. Have you ever felt attracted to other men?
4. Have you ever enjoyed the attention or attraction by certain men?
5. Have you been always open with your spouse about all these feelings?

To be very honest here, my answers will be YES for the first 4 questions, and NO for the last one.
And when you say YES, it is not YES with all the male friends/colleagues or others we interact. It is about a special kind of a bond we form with someone.
And not necessarily this bond to last forever... JMO, the excitement will eventually die.
And when I say NO, to the last question, it doesn't mean I try to hide something or feel guilty of sharing. Rather, it means I avoid discussing such feelings with my spouse, knowing it can sometimes be an unpleasant discussion.
But I do not deliberately take any precautionary actions to hide or deactivate such relationships from the world including my spouse/family.

Sometimes my other friends, family or colleagues know this special bond, and at times they would be curious to know the depth of such relationships.
But never once, I gave them an opportunity to suspect my character or gossip with others or with my family about this.
This is just a matter of handling things with a class....

I know the limits and how to maintain that fine line, so that I don't invite any troubles to my marriage or family.
I don't consider this as EMA at all, and hence won't judge if anyone is involved in such relationships.

This makes me happy, entertained, and allows to live my life to the fullest instead of feeling lonely, unhappy or unsatisfied.
It also gives me the much needed courage and mental strength to face different battles in life.
And more importantly I offer my better self to my family, so that everyone at home is happy and content.

I don't consider this as a sin. In fact, being so strict on self, and pleasing the society to prove your purity has made many women depressed in a long run. Some of them suppress their feelings and the other let their feelings take a ride on them (hence possibly trapped in EMA)
Such women can never be a light to their family. And it is indeed a sin.

Besides, crossing this fine line by taking advantage of this liberty is a different issue altogether.
EMA is there since biblical era, and there was no social media or worldly life for women back then. So, our hard-earned liberation is not at all a reason behind EMA, but something else.
Those who want to commit EMA will find a way.


Friends, share your POV here

 

Same feelings here. Too much moral policing to prevent people from seeking physical or emotional connect outside, as most of these marriages seem to me mechanical and just duty based.
If there is true love, affection and respect, I don't think one can easily tempt for EMA that easily. And there is absolutely no need for.

And having crushes and companionship outside of the marriage, one doesn't have to be in a bad marriage. It has nothing to do with their marriage IMO.

 

Same feelings here. Too much moral policing to prevent people from seeking physical or emotional connect outside, as most of these marriages seem to be very mechanical and just duty based.
If there is true love, affection and respect, I don't think one can be easily tempted for EMA.

One doesn't have to be in a bad marriage to have friends outside of the marriage. JMO