What Could Have Been The Problem?

Hi Anika,

It’s ok. It happens more often than you realize. No need to break your head over why. Just move on.

The two girls in exactly same age so close and even same school or school district along with her mom puffing her as some prodigy kinds really doesn’t augur well does it? So much potential for future comparisons, putting downs competitiveness, back biting and so on. So in that sense, I would say maybe you dodged a bullet without realizing it.

Exact same thing happened to me too when my kids were little. I wasted so much energy over it - why why? is it me? Was I too forward? Should I have waited more? blah blah. It didn’t work for me either. But Since kids were same age, same grade and in same neighborhood kept hearing about the family over the years here and there and the mom was kinda dodgy only as I came to know much later. At that time I really felt I had dodged a bullet only, that someone up there had been looking out for me in the past.

Try to go by your daughters prompts. Who is her best friend in school? Near or far, same language, race or not, a good friend, a family with similar values is rare find hence more valuable and worth making the effort for. You are in US now, driving long distances is in your future, can’t escape, so accept it now itself. Good luck!

 

That’s hilarious
And a good connection to the topic of discussion

 

It's better to stay away for now.
If she initiates later for playdate, go for it

 

I meant that as a reply to @Rihana post.. not sure why it is not showing as reply to her post. Anyway, my 2 cents - such people are everywhere and don’t loose your sleep over it. Get your child befriended with other kids in the vicinity.