What Are All The Ways To Get A Hold In Married Life.

Sweety82 · Jun 16, 2017

How many of you say that, by means of cooking, we can have a control in our family. Or, apart from intimacy (that is personal so neither I want to interfere nor I want to hear, Pls exclude this) what are all the other ways available to us to keep our husbands and kids tied up with us in our relationships. This does not mean that we don't respect other kinds of relationships like with our in-laws. Some bonding will be there with our husbands. It can also be emotional. So Pls share ur experiences so that we all can learn the tips and tricks each other to get a hold with our family. There is no right or wrong. This is not a serious topic but just to keep our life cheerful and alive and hear words from experienced people.

Sweety82 · Jun 16, 2017

Let me start with mine
_ cooking varieties( even though I get sarcastic comments sometimes on food taste, I know that my H cannot do anything fully w/o my support in this).
_ washing clothes ( I don't see this work as my job or his job. I will just do it so that, I can make him dependable).

YoGirl · Jun 16, 2017

As for husband..
1. Cooking, as he is a big foodie.
2. Not crying during any argument, but listening and participating until the end of argument. My H does not feel emotionally or sentimentally blackmailed cuz i stay bold.
3. Keeping house clean and making him help me do some stuff around house.
4. Giving him privacy to deal with social media stuff.
5. Bragging abt my academic and professional achievements to show that i am not any less than him and that i can walk out anytime if i really get hurt.

teejay · Jun 16, 2017

things that have worked for me...

cooking the dishes he likes,the way he likes them
patience, a lot of it,with my DH & in-laws
Letting go of ego & taking the first step in patching up after arguments/tiffs....even when i think he is wrong and i am right

few other things are still WIP for me, like my 'short temper ' and opening my big mouth to blurt out things without censure during arguments

fourthaugust · Jun 16, 2017

Things that works for me
Worshipping his parents
Let him spend his weekends wth his friends
Never indulged him in any household related chores
Never took his money
Lol kidding
In fact I did quite the opposite.
I guess if two individuals are willing to stay together or they have actually developed liking for each other over the years, I guess you do things to please each other.
I cannot remember anything specific that I did but it just happened with small small things we did together, things that we did for each other. It happened gradually when we started overlooking each other faults.
So I love to cook for him, want to look good for him. Love to spend time and share even very small details of my daily mundane life.
The beat part is he reciprocates. That is how it happened. Sorry if I did not answer or expressed myself properly but cant figure the exact things that worked for me.

SunPa · Jun 16, 2017

fourthaugust said: ↑

Things that works for me
Worshipping his parents
Let him spend his weekends wth his friends
Never indulged him in any household related chores
Never took his money
Lol kidding
In fact I did quite the opposite.
I guess if two individuals are willing to stay together or they have actually developed liking for each other over the years, I guess you do things to please each other.
I cannot remember anything specific that I did but it just happened with small small things we did together, things that we did for each other. It happened gradually when we started overlooking each other faults.
So I love to cook for him, want to look good for him. Love to spend time and share even very small details of my daily mundane life.
The beat part is he reciprocates. That is how it happened. Sorry if I did not answer or expressed myself properly but cant figure the exact things that worked for me.
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you got me at first!!

fourthaugust · Jun 16, 2017

SunPa said: ↑

you got me at first!!
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Hehe...so my attempt was sucessful

Sweety82 · Jun 16, 2017

YoGirl said: ↑

As for husband..
1. Cooking, as he is a big foodie.
2. Not crying during any argument, but listening and participating until the end of argument. My H does not feel emotionally or sentimentally blackmailed cuz i stay bold.
3. Keeping house clean and making him help me do some stuff around house.
4. Giving him privacy to deal with social media stuff.
5. Bragging abt my academic and professional achievements to show that i am not any less than him and that i can walk out anytime if i really get hurt.
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Oh yA. No 3 and 4 I think Iam doing. No 5. 50%. I have not projected on my academic achievements.