Lots of love to you ladies who are giving me wisdom, strength and tips. Thank you!! I took your advice and am living my own life for the past couple of days. Saturdays we typically go out but yesterday I told him coldly that although I am very pissed off (still am because of his comment about not wanting a working wife) I can cook on both Saturday and Sunday but I will not do much during the week. He initially said "I don't care." I said whatever and went for a one hour walk. Came back and said unless I get a yes/no I am not moving forward. I got a grudging "Sure" so I went ahead and cooked. Today, again cooked. There is enough left over for tomorrow and I plan to offer that. I have clearly communicated that I can't be expected to do much during work hours. He can cook or order something. We are still not talking and I am actually ok with it thanks to you guys. The old me would have tried to patch up already. He needs to understand that he has no right to make insensitive comments and expect me to be nice. Knowing him, he is probably simmering inside and two things are possible - he will get meaner and mention the D-word or he will calm down and act as if nothing happened. Believe it or not - after around an average of one fight every two months, he has apologized probably 5 times in 15 years. I always have to beg for things to go to normal. A year ago I decided I am not doing that anymore and I continue the silence until he tries to act normal. Has worked but I ain't ever getting an apology. Any tips on how to come to terms with that are also appreciated!