Were Women Better Off In The Past

Below are just my rambling thoughts.


I'm just wondering were women better off in the past.

Back then there was division of labor

Men worked outside the house

Women worked inside the house

Men earned a living with their hard work and sacrifice

Women made life worth living with their hard work and sacrifice

Men and Women worked together

Now it seems women are expected to work outside the house and keep the house running like clockwork

In a lot of Indian-US-based matrimonial ads considerable number of Men say they expect their wives to work. They don't say who will take care of Housework (which itself is a 24hr-7-days-a-week job)

Meantime things like "mancave" have come into our venacular when Men can hide in their own special room, watch sports, video games, maybe watch pixelated ladies, i.e p0rn

Hundreds of years ago when Men went to war to defend their families, only cowards and deserters hide in caves.

Are a lot of men becoming cowards and deserters?

It seems women have to wear the pants in the family while the man behaves like a child.

Even in US-based shows and commercials it shows the woman has everything together while the man is immature, lacks responsibility

Plus women have to go through 9 months of pregnancy, who helps with that? I see lot of pregnant ladies still coming to work when they should be resting.

On one hand there is a natural, instinctive human desire to be one with someone else, to start a home, a family.

On the other hand is this cold reality around us.


Somehow I think things have become topsy-turvy, and it is favor of men only.

Women generally look for deep emotional bonds when it comes to marriage.

Men are more on the physical side when it comes to marriage. But what is the incentive for a man to marry when he can easily get casual sex, or better yet, free sex on his high-speed internet?

Of course if the woman makes lot of $$$ that is an attraction to a man, if he can convince her to give that $$$.

Women will try to make a rotten marriage work if the are in love with the Man (or the mirage of the Man), even though that same Man would sell her down the river for a few breadcrumbs. Just search these forums!

Again, these are just my ramblings.

 

I absolutely agree.

Lot of times my Dad says get a boyfriend rather than get married. Once you are married, then the problems start.

And even thought women have financial means to walk out of unhappy marriage, are they emotionally able to cut off these ties?

But I cannot see myself giving myself to someone who cannot even sign a simple paper saying they will commit to me forever.

This is really making me think and be selective of who to marry (if ever)

It seems in Indian culture anyway, Man is told he is head of household and Husband is to be respected like God.

But do Husbands act like Gods?

That would be my litmus test to getting married. Is this person truly behaving like a God, i.e. providing, protecting, being sensible, or is he another silly (or in severe cases, abusive and toxic) person who wants to remove burdens from his shoulders, and get benefits of being a God?

Otherwise, better to stay single and worship the Real God.

Right now I catch glimpses of Sai Baba serial and am a bit envious at their simple lifestyle. Man and Women live together in Holy Matrimony, along with their children. They tackle life's problems together and have faith in God.

 

This.

 

Life was unfair to ladies in the past. And you are right, males mindset hasn't changed. There are even websites and reddit subgroups that are calling for this to return. Even a woman's online group is saying if you didn't have children before your 30s you failed in life.

It seems that only males use women's freedoms to their advantage. For instance, expecting wife to bring home money. And because there are more women in the workplace, these same males can have affairs with a female, perhaps who herself is suffering and stuck in an unhappy marriage at home.

And of course the male is pampered by his parents. When I got married I was told to be nice to my now ex, and his family. But did anyone ever tell them to be nice to me?

You are right, we must demand that males behave more like men and take care of women. Taking care goes both ways.

When I wanted marriage, it was enough that they guy was young and handsome because I had good education and good-paying job.

I was told I was lucky to get this person (now ex) and that he was too good for me.

Turns out the ex never paid a penny for a single thing, yet demanded to be treated like a God. Even during intimacy he taunted me, taunted I have no power in my legs, taunted I flop like his elderly grandmother (turns out he was comparing me to the p0rn he would watch on high-speed Internet I paid for)

All the money and education in the world could not earn me the respect of such a devil.

Now I demand the guy act like a mature, responsible adult who truly understand what it means to be head of household (not some overgrown spoiled and pampered brat) before even proceeding to next steps (i.e. nice person, take care of health and nice looking, etc)

Otherwise no deal.

 

And this busy lifestyle is considered to be healthy, living a full life.

Maybe women want to get married is because of the dream they are fed. Seeing the beautiful bridal dholi, and all the Bollywood dreams.

Plus it is drilled into our heads that sex outside of marriage is bad. If we can get over that hump, plus we are earning ourselves, then things would be different.

Of course we have to demand males who keep us company have to pay for things, and behave useful, otherwise they are just mooching off us again.