My aunt and uncle visited a couple of weeks ago. They came from quite a distance (from Vancouver), so they stayed with my parents for a few days. During their visit, they came to visit us (husband and I). On said visit, my uncle comments to me privately that "Oh, your dad is worried about you and it's stressing him." He then comments that I don't visit my parents often and that it's bothering them. To put things into context, what he means by being "worried" is that we spent two and a half months in Srinagar earlier in the year (my husband is from there) and given the situation in Kashmir, it's not the safest thing. In the same vein, he asks me why my husband can't go by himself as they're his family. I'm not even going to comment on that. A few things: - I see my parents fairly often, maybe once a week or so? We live about 1 hour and 45 minutes away from them and we have an 11-month old. It's not the shortest or the easiest drive. They know this and I'm sure they're okay. - My uncle made reference to not going to a few family gatherings and asks how I have time to visit my in-laws everyday during Eid (my husband is Muslim) but not my family for their family gatherings. We don't live close by and have a small child. It's not entirely possible to travel almost 2 hours (and 2 hours coming back) to attend every single function. Secondly, my in-laws live about 20 minutes away. How does that even compare to almost 2 hours? Honestly, I doubt my parents care. They are outgoing and social but they're more about their plans rather than functions per se. What bothers me is why tell me this? Even if true, which I'm not so sure that it is, I'm sure there are better ways to go about it. Aside from that, he and my aunt live clear on the other side of the country (we live in Montreal) and they have no idea what goes on in day to day life, so how can you comment or make judgement on things you don't know? Needed to vent. Any input would be appreciated.