This. My husband hates some people in their extended family... he dosn't even know their full names. All he knows that they were bad to his mom... and guess who told all this when he was 5... yup. He dosnt even know what they actually did. Lost almost all uncles and aunts like this by the time he was 15. His parents made sure he had no good moments or feelings for anyone except them. Way to go parenting < slow claps> While I had a very good set of huge cousins. When I grew up I realised that my uncles and aunts were not perfect either but thats ok. I have nice memories and I am ok with what they are or what they are not. My husband gets GREEN when my extended family always treats me well and I have fun. He says ' they are only pretending remember'.. Riiight,I actually dont care if or else they are, I am happy Just read that you did not mean to, its ok sometimes we feel alone isnt it... to answer your question, I am waiting for my kids to be considered , there comes no question of me getting included, not that I am desperate for it thou.