I am a married (16 yrs) women with two kids living in USA . I have been struggling with trusting my husband due to his private life behind my back. I have posted about my issues here (Dilemma- Leave Or Stay). Here is an update. I felt like the counselling didn't work in our case. He agreed that there will be transparency and I can access his phone if I request it. I rarely asked for it. But I made sure I have access to it. My life was terrible as he started living in silent mode and its was continuing like this last four months. He requested another session on a counselling and was blaming me all the time for making his life horrible, for informing his parents about it. Finally he said he want to separate and he don't want to work on this marriage. Again I asked him is there any chance to work on this marriage. He said he is ready but based on so many conditions- like I have to be pleasant, don't ask question him and no access to his phone or emails as he think its his private space etc. He promise me that he will be faithful. Can I trust him as he refuse to be transparent? what you will do in my place. He don't want to talk with me on this as he thinks its stressful. I don't know how to sort this out without talking. I don't want to talk again in front of counselor. I am so worried about my parents ( sick and old )and kids. I have tried everything I can to save this marriage. But I cannot accept his demand like this. I know that he can cheat me if he wants even when I have full access. But no access to his phone even with his permission make me suspicious. When I posted it here all most all of the ladies suggested it is good to go for separation. I have some health issues too and I don't know how to manage everything alone. I dont have any family or friends here . If separation is the only option, what are the things I have to do. I have a big house which I cannot maintain alone. I can pay EMI if I want to. He wants to move out. What is best and practical suggestion. Stay in the house or move to another. As I earn more, I dont know I end up paying him money if I go for divorce. Do I need to agree with demands and see how it goes for some more time . I need more time to settle everything. I dont want to rush. The whole issue affect my career too. I am in a very confused state. Please help.