Urgent Advice Needed :(

Hi ladies
As usual I put myself in a mess.my Sil is getting married and my mil asked us for gold to gift back to me n her a bajuband.I was angry coz den dats not a gift and coz our accounts r always separate n derz no lending and borrowing.So I told my hubby dat I Dont want bajuband n wanted jumkis thinking I'll get dem made wen remaining gold be given back.Now seems lyk she won't gv back balance gold n I'l b left wid 2 small lite weight jumkis made from our own gold.wat do I do? If I ask for d latter now how n won't I luk selfish?