@friendabc , I would say to each his own. Its your personal choice not to have kids and I respect that. its obviously annoying when people go on advising thinking that they can make better decisions for us. Having said that I am however a kind of person who is all for having kids. I am addressing my medical issues and adoption is something which i might consider as well. My vent is mainly due to lack of empathy on my friend's part to my issues. its mainly to seek some suggestions to overcome the hurt i am feeling because of her behavior.