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Up To What Age Can A Man Have A Healthy Erection

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by ChennaiExpress, Apr 19, 2018.

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  1. ChennaiExpress

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    Up to what age can a fit, healthy man have a healthy erection to be intimate with his wife?

    Asking in Married section because software on this site highlights posts from this forum.

    Plus it is practical to think about this Before marriage, considering the threads where H cannot (or will not) be intimate.

    In my particular case I am finding men up to 20, 25 years my senior (who are fit, healthy and successful) more attractive because they are more likely stay in marriage, and more likely to have financial means to allow women to work from home.

    Of course young men are attractive but when I start thinking practicalities (faithfulness, financial support, understanding during pregnancy) I get cold feet.

    Yes, taking care of house, family finances, any children that God blesses them with is work. Plus keeping beautiful and in shape for health and husband.

    Plus I notice older men like younger women and I'd feel safe, comfortable, and open (physically receptive, at least) in a marriage where I like the man, yet the man likes me much much more.

    However I understand with age, men are less able to perform.

    How much of a problem is this, i.e. ability (or lack therof) to be intimate. Once a day should suffice (with break during cycles, of course)
     
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    Years back, have read news about an 80 year old man marrying some teenager n fathering a child.

    Have also heard common discussions, that men can be intimate n father children regardless of how old they are as they don't go through menopause.

    So I am assuming here that they are good to go as long as they are healthy both physically n mentally n share similar need as their partner.
     
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    Hi CE

    I don't have answer for till what age men can be intimate daily basis. But there are cases where even 70year old have fathered a baby.

    I would like to add this.(my personal views)

    Marrying 20 year senior has it's disadvantage.

    He will obviously die soon. Leaving a women single again.

    After 40 or 50 health issues kick in

    Might not be able intimate as compared to 30s 40s yr old.

    More than spouse/partner he might be like caretaker. It becomes like generation gap.

    And finally there is no guarantee that he will be loving caring.

    Might come with baggage of teenage kids.

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    I suggest to think about max 5 to 10yr for marriage.

    Widowers, unmarried options are good too.

    Meeting them and dating them for while will help you understand the person.

    Good luck dear.. All the best.
    I see all your posts. Appreciate your care/love for your dad..
     
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    Once a day might not be the norm for a older man with health issues. Something to think about .
     
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    Based on your question, if it is sexual satisfaction ( through a successful erection) that you want to know about, age has no role to play.
    It all varies depending on the individual's wants and needs. And a mere erection and daily performance doesn't guarantee you sexual satisfaction.
    As someone else rightly pointed out, you might have to be willing to adjust to a routine that the man has already established for himself ( guessing he is in his 50s) deal with the health issues that come with ageing and much worse, early demise of the spouse in the worst scenario.
     
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    This is completely dependent on the individual. Some men start experiencing erectile dysfunction even before they are 40. Others are still going strong at 70. This will call for an honest discussion.
     
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    @coffeecups and @Sandycandy
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    Very True.
    As you keep getting older, habits and regularity changes.
    Maintaining a healthy lifestyle will be useful in the long run even for ageing men.
     
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    Don’t forget that a man in 50’s may also be looking for a young , hot bod and not necessarily a life partner . Let’s cut to the chase - They may have all the time and money but most are just looking for a baby girl or an arm candy and not necessarily marriage and all that baggage . They may also be pretty set in their own ways and lifestyle and may not be open to adjustments as young couples do . You seem to have lot of apprehension regarding marriage so don’t rush into it . Financial support is questionable too as many of them are not that rich as you think they are and may already be paying for their ex family maintenance . And if the guy has some health problems , you will be the one babysitting him along with taking care of your father. Are you willing to sign up for this ?

    You are clearly not ready for marriage so if it’s just sex that you are looking for , then just stick to young men sans the marriage drama :thumbsup:
     
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    @ChennaiExpress i seriously pray that you find your peace and happiness.

    i hope you are not being flooded with offers here..

    by now a shrewd person can connect so many dots and i hope you know what you are doing and are ready to face the music..
     
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    Thank you for your responses ... will go through them and reply individually a bit later.
     
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