Unhappy Happiness Of Miserably Contented People

periamma · Jun 19, 2017

@SCSusila very nice writeup. BP Sugar and some diseases want an asylum and they happily find in idle person..when i was busy in work there was no symptom of these guests and now they occupy my life and make me busy to visit hospitals for Monthly checkups .If any one ask me "How are you?"i answer them with happiness i have inherited my parental properties along with their diseases too .No worries life goes on like this.

sindmani · Jun 20, 2017

Viswamitra said: ↑

@SCSusila,

Depending on the mental make-up of each individual, they interact with the fellow beings. It could be to express truth in their words. It could be to avoid anyone else thinking that they are doing well. It could be a habit of merely analyzing the health to the micro level. It could be to gain sympathy from the fellow-beings. It could be a cry for help. It could be their way of handling their health issues with equanimity by talking about it. It is difficult to judge.

Viswa
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True . one the positive note there are people who are very confident that things will be alright, their health will be alright even if they have a greater health problem. Yes there are different kind of people. I am glad for them .I think that thought will itself heal them

sindmani · Jun 20, 2017

SCSusila said: ↑

@satchitananda ,
Thank you very much for the comment.
What do we do with them , what do we do without them ...very true. While worries add some colour to life , worriers add variety . If everyone was happy , contented , talking positive etc , it would soon become boring .
It is something like this . OneTV mega serial producer / director wasasked why they are making life miserable for all the women characters like their whole life is filled to top with only tragedy , sudden twists , accidents , oppression , depression etc etc. And the man replied : " if i show only hapyy-happy families smiling, eating and sleeping peacefully seven days a week , will you see my serial ? "

( just want to add : i dont know hindi very much , sorry , so could not understand properly, the quote you gave )
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Then we need to think about watching more serials. Why to put more pressure on us unnecessarily.it does affect our mind . one director told it seems he is the showing the things that is happening in world. a bad thing happened some where in the world not everywhere. Why to show it to the whole world and create an impression that it is common in the world. They can show good things by exaggerating too. But they won't get TRP. really not a good thing what they are doing is.

SCSusila · Jun 21, 2017

@ojaantrik

The Theory of Revealed Preference was a revelation . I had never heard of it though I had always held the same view .
But very sad to know that some great thinkers , Nobel shortlisters , have burst the big balloon we people hold that human beings are Rational Beings . So now wehave to assume we are irrational beings with no use for the advanced brains God gave us ? This thought makes me unhappy .
Some people - the brainy ones - are Happy to make others feel Miserable I think .

SCSusila · Jun 21, 2017

@Viswamitra ,
Thank you for the comment .
I agree it is difficult to judge people in anything . Who knows how different people react to the same situations and why they do that ? It is same as different people having different tastes.
Every thing , every reaction of every person has a cause which seems rational and meaningful to them .but maybe not to others .
But after reading Ojaantriks reply I cannot even be sure of rationality in reactions .
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SCSusila · Jun 21, 2017

@shyamala1234
I cannot see any words you from you.
But , Thank you for reading my post and quoting it .

SCSusila · Jun 21, 2017

@periamma
Thank you for your nice words .
This is the kind of happy , positive and humourous attitude that I like and most needed for people getting old. I will be Senior Citizen in few more years and wish to have same attitude likeyou .
Like you say , we inherit good things and also health problems from our elders . When we are happy with the good inheritance why should wecomplain about the bad inheritance ? Lets enjoy the rose and tolerate the thorn , with humour .

SCSusila · Jun 21, 2017

@sindmani

TV Serials and the TV Addicts are interlinked . They will say they show what these people want . And these people become addicted to what they show, inspite of complaining that they are rotten !
You know , there is a technical word even ( not " sadist" , i am not remembering iit ) , for people taking pleasure in watching other people,s suffering without causing it . I think we have a large population of such people waiting to see a daily dose of misery .

Iravati · Jun 23, 2017

I handle human stories, esp. happy-unhappy or unhappy-happy stories, very badly. I think I do ok with animal stories. I employ few stock phrases like

"Thank you",
"You are great",
"I am sorry for you",
"You have a good life",
"You are in my thoughts"

whose meaning and purpose till date I have not grasped. Yet, I juggle between these phrases to instigate a normal and non-threatening human interaction. Yet, each time I miserably fail. A typical conversation.

A: I have had to struggle so much. Then I redesigned my life. Then I rose like a phoenix. Then I emerged victorious. Then I was that Saladin who conquered half the world with my courage and discipline and force of will (fishing for a compliment)
I say: I am sorry for you.
A: No, no, that is all in the past. Today, I am the Queen Sheeba of my whims. I am strong-willed and independent. I am brave incarnate. (fishing for a compliment)
I say: Thank you.
A: No, I meant I did what no other person was able to do.
I say: You already told that a hundred times. You tell that every time we meet. Everyone is doing that everyday. Even ants! They are falling, they are rising. If everyone thinks they are doing something unique and publish their story, the publishers will run out of paper. You have a good life.
A: I have had so many problems. I have had problems that no one can imagine. The pain and suffering that I went through will make even my enemy wince.
I say: You have enemies? You and your enemies are in my thoughts.
A: You are not getting me. Forget it. Shall we order coffee, cappuccino?
I say: You like cappuccino? Wow! You are great, you are an AMAZING woman and you like coffee!

Human interactions terrify me not knowing if I am interposing the most suitable phrase in the proper order in that woefully boggling conversation. Again, as I stated, I do okay with unassuming spiders and humble lizards. Human interactions scare me!

LakshmiKMBhat · Jun 23, 2017

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" I have WS-t for so long that I begin to worry now at the slightest sign that I am not worrying!!"

This was Ojantrik's response to my response to his jolly post about a not very jolly experience with howling medical professionals.

His statement looks very much like what we can find in the funny books by Dr.Seuss which my grandchild reads . But Ojaantrik is not kidding like Seuss , I think , but is very honest about his personality trait .
And I believe him. Because I have met people with same trait in flesh and blood too.

When someone greets you with the standard question ," How are you ? " what will most people usually say ?
The standard reply is " I am fine, thank you ".
But I know two people who will take that question very seriously and start giving very minutely detailed description of how they are . Their aches, pains , difficulties ( especially in the Bowel Movement) , upsets , distresses , agonies etc they suffered on that day and yesterday .

One of them is a Senior Citizen and has the usual health problems like Diabetes , BP and joint pains , so her medical bulletin will be longer and more colourful . By the time she finishes her answer to my "How are you ? " I will be needing Tiger Balm . But she will be looking very happy as though she has just given me some good news like she had won a bumper lottery .

With all that loads of misery , these two people will still be keeping busy , going out, cinema-drama-concert , visits , shopping , quite well and happily also . And I will be wondering how anyone with so much problems can be so cheerful . May be they are very philosophical , positive-minded ? Or, are they just lying about their miseries ?
No , they are just created like that . I call them Worry Seekers . They love collecting worries like I love collecting souvenirs. And being Miserable makes them Happy !
I will give one very recent example . I went on a conducted tour with The Senior Citizen ( mentioned above) , and we shared hotel rooms. So first morning , I asked her , for politeness : " Did you sleep well ? " I expected a long list of complaints like sprained neck, too high AC , upset tummy from useless dinner etc.
She said " Yes . I slept very well . Deep sleep "
I wondered, what miracle is this !
But she continued : " It is very unusual . I usually get up twice at night , or I get leg cramps . I always sleep light and wake up early . But last night I slept soundly , like a baby ......perhaps I should get tested for Sleeping Sickness . I went to Nairobi two years ago you know , maybe the TseTse fly had bitten me....Or maybe my blood oxygen level has fallen very low .......do you think any tumors in brain can create a blackout ? ....." etc etc.
Now I got totally confused . Are people supposed to be Happy or Unhappy if they sleep well ?

I really dont know how to handle these people . After their full report of their miseries , if I say " Ayyo , so sad , take care , did you see a specialist ? " etc , they get fully charged and will energetically start a fresh bulletin about the clinic visit . Starting with the calamity of the cancelled Ola Cab , the agony of back pain due to Auto ride in heavy traffic , the misery of the long que in the Clinic with no place to sit , going hungry because the canteen food was rotten , consequent giddiness, sour-tongue , acidity. All this is only preface . I will not make you run to get your Tiger Balm by narrating the full bulletin . I will only say , if I show sympathy , their natural miserable condition becomes rabid . And they become Miserably Happy .

If I dont show sympathy and just nod after their full report , they will take big offense that I hurt their feelings by not caring . And I know that will also make them happy because they can add my rudeness to their " mental agony " list when somebody else asks them " how are you " .

But one thing I can say in favour of their peculiar personality . They can always be Happy , because Misery makes them Happy and misery is not very hard to find in life , isnt it !
People like us who try very hard to avoid pain and miserable feelings cannot be so assured of a continuous supply of Happiness !
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My neighbour too has a long list of complaints, but she is active too. her complaints does not make her happy, she worries about them and likes to share them with someone. She is active because she worries if she is not active, she will become dull.