I need some counselling. a few years ago, my younger brother got married. And i have reason to think(at least I THINK I have a reason) that they she and her family hate the fact that I exist in my brother's life. Some background - I have been a second mother to him. My brother used to seek my opinion on important matters. Not anymore and that is perfectly fine. I am a hands off sister too, and give him advice only when he asks, even before his marriage. So obviously, now I definitely maintain a distance. He does'nt ask about personal matters either, excepting this one time he needed my opinion on saying yes to this girl. [All this to say, I am not an evil sister-in-law] He told me that she told him not to ask my opinion because she is going to be his wife. And this, even BEFORE they agreed on each other. That day I knew, I would neither be respected nor given a place in my brother's life and my parental family, IF she is the one. GUess what, yup she IS the one! I accepted, because, well it is his life, and ultimately he needs to be happy irrespective of how I get treated. Coming to the wedding and after, my sil and her family were/are very rude to me. [there were other issues from their side, but that's another story] she yelled, her father pointed his finger to my face, blah blah. No courtesy and ready to jump down my throat. I didn't tell anyone anything and kept quiet. It did eventually come out to my dad because he once saw me crying quietly. He didn;t say much to me but apparently told my mom, but true to her nature, she dismissed my feelings as nothing more than self pity. As if this is not enough, my own mother asked me to leave the house the moment her dil set foot into the home I was born and raised in. My in laws live close by so I left. I feel abandoned and hurt. I feel like am alone and without a solid rock behind me. even today, they are on very good terms with people who hurt me and This has been the case ever since my childhood. i feel abandoned. yes that's the second time i said that and here is a third time - I feel abandoned. And before you say I am over reacting, I am not. this is not just because what happened at my brother's wedding, it is the story of my life, exacerbated by the incidents at the wedding. . I never had anyone backing me. I have always been alone. Any suggestions that can help heal the wound? And need help with how to maintain relationship with my SIL without getting humiliated over and over again. And then,of course, how to forgive and forget my mother's attitude towards me. (Forgiving is much more hard when it is your own parents.) Thankyou!