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Truthful answers to uncomfortable questions

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by guesshoo, Aug 14, 2014.

  1. guesshoo

    guesshoo IL Hall of Fame

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    My DD is now a preschooler. Ever since she started talking, I've been bombarded with questions - some tricky ones about relationships, parts of the anatomy, how to treat people etc. Until now I've answered her truthfully but tactfully and intend doing the same. Since questions are getting more complicated I wanted to start this thread so we can all share ideas about how to handle those intense question kids ask.

    Boys and girls
    One of the first such questions she posed was when she saw a baby boy being changed. She asked some questions over the next couple of days. This was pretty much our conversation.

    DD: what's that mummy?
    me: that's called a willy, dear.
    DD: why is it there?
    me: that's what makes <Xyz> a boy
    DD: where's mine?
    Me: you don't have one. You have your girl bits instead. That makes you a girl.
    DD: do you have a willy?
    me: nope. I used to be a little girl before I became a woman
    DD: what about daddy?
    me: he used to be a boy. He does have one.
    DD: can I get one?
    me: do you want one? I can check with the doctor if it is possible. if it is, then you'd be a boy and wear boy clothes.
    DD: no dresses?
    me: nope.
    DD: I don't want to be a boy then.

    Phew!
     
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    Pregnant ladies
    When one of our friends were pregnant, we were excitedly touching her tummy as her baby moved.
    DD: why is the baby in there?
    me: that's where they come from- their mummy's tummy
    DD: when I was a baby whose tummy was I in?
    me: you were in my tummy. (Showed her scan pictures to show how tiny she was) When you had grown enough, we went to the hospital and the doctors helped get you out.
    DD: how did the doctor do that?
    me: he had to cut me open as you seemed very anxious to see us (had an emergency c-section) He was a very clever surgeon. Only surgeons are allowed to open people up.

    She wanted to know if the surgeon could open her up and get her a baby!
    I showed her my scar and explained further that it really hurt and I could only manage as I was a grown-up. Once she is a grown-up, she could decide what to do.

    another phew!
     
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    Pads!
    I realised with a jolt that my DD notices things and quite often makes some sense of it herself. Soon after she was toilet trained and didn't wear nappies, she complained to my husband as soon as he got home, "do you know mummy wears nappies? You should tell her she is not a baby anymore. Go to the toilet." Man! Were we thankful no one was visiting when that happened!

    We didn't discuss anything at that point but a couple of months later she barged into the bathroom unexpectedly and saw tiny bit of blood.

    DD: what is it red there, mummy?
    me: please go to dad. I need privacy.
    DD: is it blood? Are you hurt?
    Me: it is but don't worry I'm not hurt. Please go.
    DD: why is there blood mummy? Did you get a boo boo in your girl bits?
    Me: I'm fine. It is not a boo boo
    DD: (seeming really worried) why is it red blood then?
    Me: sometimes for women blood comes from the girl bits. It is normal for all grown up women. It doesn't hurt. It is nothing to worry about. It means your body is working properly. Ok? Next time onwards please don't walk in when you know I'm inside.
    DD: ok. But you should only do it on the potty ok? Don't wear that nappy. Shall I take it away? You are a big girl now.
     
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    I am laughing out loud here.....you are SO good with her questions!!
     
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    My god,i can not control my laugh!!!.You are replying to her very nicely.God bless the cute girl.
     
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    Oh so adorable is your daughter :) I am waiting to get stumped like that soon.
     
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    My younger one came back from KG school(they had shared toilets)and informed me
    DD:Boys susu is like standing line.
    Me:Ok.
    ..........................................................
    DD:When will I have these?(boobies)
    Me:Someday...there is still time.
    DD :not at all satisfied goes to her dad.
    DD: When will I have (action with hands forming boobies)like mumma....?
    DH:(with a :shock:look)When you are as big as mumma.
    DD: Ok
    .........................................................

    DD(to her dad):(Wearing my bra over her dress) When will I wear these (mumma duddhu wrappers....the official name given to bra by my dds)
    DH:(oh God why me)...not now .....later on.
    DD: why not now?
    DH: Ask mumma...
    DH (to me)...Why can't I wear these now?
    DD: Because you have no boobies...
    DD...When will I have boobies....(oh God ...not again.)
    ......................................................................................

    My DD asking my newly married brother who was on his extended honeymoon and dropped by for a visit with his new bride)
    DD: Where is your baby?
    MY brother:We don't have a baby...you are our baby.
    DD: Why not ?you can get babies from the hospital.
    ..............................................................................
    I was on my usual walk about seven months pregnant with my first DD when a friends son asked me why I was so fat in the stomach.
    ME:I have a baby in my stomach.
    He:(with a terrified look)YOU ATE YOUR BABY!!!!!:shaking:
     
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    Very difficult questions, tough to answer. That's why I am a big supporter of human
    anatomy education at school. At school they teach all things to kids making our life
    easier . But your girl is only a preschooler I like your clever answers.
     
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    awesome. excellent questions from the little cuties and hats off to the moms who answered them.
    my son is only 2 now so still those days are yet to come for now we are doing ok. he speaks his own ing language now. add ing to about everything.

    dropping in the cupping.
    babying coming drinking milking.(if prepare the formula he calls out to his 10 month old sister to come and drink her milk)
    baby bumming(couldnt decipher what this was). this is new.
     
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    Thank you, folks! (I have tried entering your individual names but auto correct changes them beyond recognition!) Please do share your tactics too!

    YM, I was laughing out at your DDs' questions. The honeymoon question is hilarious! What a wise look there must have been on your little girl's face as she imparted that wisdom to her seemingly "slow" uncle!
    As for "eating" the baby I only wonder what went through in the child's head!! :D

    On a related note,

    Mammary glands
    DD: why is your body like that?
    Me: because I'm a woman.
    DD: I want to wear a bra because (Cupping her hands in front of her) I want like this, like this.
    Me: as you grow bigger and start becoming a young woman you will get them too. Then you can wear a bra.
    DD: yaaaayyyyy! But when is that?
    Me: in about ten years. (She has no concept of how long a year is, yet)
    DD: ten? Yaaaaaayyyy!

    A few days later,
    DD: why do you have like this here?
    Me: I told you, remember? It's because I'm a woman.
    DD: yes, but why? (She is still stuck asking why for everything)
    Me: their job was to make milk for you when you were a baby.
    DD: did I get milk from there? Not from the fridge?
    Me: yes. We gave you milk from the fridge only when you were older.
    DD: did I drink your milk like <xx> baby? Do you know he drank milk from <y> aunty?
    Me: wow! You remember! Right. Just like that.
     
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