Hi there, Many of us are our mom's/dad's pets since the time we were born.But after marriage life is very different and there are situations where we need to judge different people in our families.We will be connected to more people after marriage other than our parents and sometimes our parents may not guide us in the right way which could be due to immense love on us.They would not be able to understand the other side of the coin and always think about our safety.This is happening more with the gal's parents am seeing a lot these days.They love their daughters very much and no one can comment on it.But sometimes they go very mean and don't even think about their son-in-law situation.They always try to command their daughter's married life be it in personal matters or monetary issues.Even the gal don't understand the intimacy that she should have with his husband/in-laws.she blindly follows whatever her parents say as she had been grown up by them. But after marriage,a gal should try to mould herself into a complete woman rather than being a loving daughter still.she need to understand that the boy's parents are also equally important and she needs to feel them as her people.She should gently tell her parents not to involve much in their life apart from the general guidelines.For example,I know of my uncle who always bother about their son-in-law not buying any house even after 3 years of marriage.But that guy is a manager in bank and have a solid idea of financial matters.So it is his wish to decide on when to buy a house etc.But my uncle always point it directly or indirectly in family discussions and to y utter dismay the gal don't even dare to restrict her father's words which mean to insult her husband.She might have a strong bond with her father as everyone do but she should be able to control the situations when going wrong. A gal is to play a key role in balancing the relationship with both the families.She should have that feeling of belongingness in the boy's family too and try to control her parents when they try to overdo (out of immense love for her )If her parents are illiterates then it is her responsibility to tell them not to involve much and insult her inlaw family.Also I know of cases where the gal's parents only concern about their gal and don't even think a while for their son-in-law.Best example for this is keeping their daughter with them for a long time with bound of love.They don't care for how many problems their son-in-law is facing without his wife..the gal also keeps herself calm due to respect towards her parents.Such situations demands an active role of the gal to get them solved. Overall,I feel that it is the gal who need to be proactive in explaining things to her parents and should control them not to involve too much in her married life.It really hurts the boy and their family a lot though they may not express it.This is really very sensitive no gal can imagine her husband/family to get insulted.But there are such gals whom I have seen but no proper guidance for them.I hope this post helps at least such few people to realise things and think in a right direction. What do you say friends?