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toddler scared of going to toilet!

Discussion in 'Toddlers' started by parvathi1980, Apr 18, 2010.

  1. parvathi1980

    parvathi1980 Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi,I have two major probs and am unable to understand how to handle it:

    In two months my son will turn three nd he still does not like to go to the toilet. If he has to pee he will simply remove his shorts and do the needful! But he seems to be very scared of sitting on the toilet seat. he even takes his afternoon nap without wetting the bed. Once he wakes up he gets off the the bed, removes his shorts and pees!

    Now added to all this is that he has just started going to nursery...about a week back...he is very scared to go to school...he cries almost the entire day in school and does not eat anything. watever he eats he vomits. The school told me not make him wear diapers since they take the kids to the toilet every hour. But now the prob is that he is wetting his clothes. He is not removing his shorts in school.

    How do i make him feel comfortable in going to the toilet?

    A little background: he is the only child and is not used to interacting with too many people.
     
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  2. tikka

    tikka Gold IL'ite

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    Parvathi, my son also had the issue of not wanting to sit the school potty to do his thing. At this point, he is actually old enough to undress himself, stand and pee in the potty. We are now trying to get him to aim it into the western toilet.
    Some children are scared of the big potty and the sound flush makes. It does take a lot of patience and reassurance to help them overcome their fear.
    One of the mommies here suggested dropping a couple of fuitloops into the toilet and turning peeing into a game. The child gets to hit the colourful loops with their pee. I intend getting some colourful flushable stuff to start training to pee standing up.
    I have no suggestion for your second question. We did a lot preparation for school last year with books and animations on how it is to go to school. DS was very happy for a month and the all hell broke loose. He would cry to the point of getting sick every day. It was not worth the while for us and we took DS off school. We are getting readmitted this June - fingerscrossed.
     
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    Riyasmommy Silver IL'ite

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    Parvati, I was going to suggest this. I saw my FIL use this trick to teach his grandson. My nephew loved 'aiming' at the fruit loops. :) We have a 28 month old girl and the way we started her potty training was introduced the bathroom to her. The main goal was to get her comfortable in the bathroom, so I put a basket of books (since she loves to be read) and we would put her on the potty seat and read to her. Whether she went or not, we would ask her to flush or we would flush and make it sound like it's the most fun thing to do. She has never been scared of flushing sounds or sitting on the potty chair. I know some of my friends even put a potty seat on the floor and take the kid with them whenever they had to go.

    So spend some time in the bathroom everyday, as crazy as it sounds, doing what your son likes best - reading, playing with his toys etc. Ask him to flush and assure him lovingly it's nothing to be scared of. To begin with, don't do it while he is on the toilet, do it while he's standing next to it and explain to him that the water coming out makes the sound.

    Raj
     
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    vidhyalakshmid Platinum IL'ite

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    Parvati,
    Every kid is different and unique too. You can try the sticker method.
    If he goes to the bathroom, each time he can get a colorful, favourite
    sticker. Try if it works for your son. My DD is 3.5 and she is ok in school.
    But before the bed time she resists to go to bathroom. If I show some
    stickers then she goes. Otherwise she says only `NO NO NO`
     
  5. parvathi1980

    parvathi1980 Platinum IL'ite

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    Thnx everybody for the wonderful tips...hopefully something will work out soon!
     

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