Tips to handle naughty child

We generally underestimate children's potential thinking that they are small. She is clearly trying to avoid any written down rules and wants to take her words for her good conduct. I strongly suggest, you work out a plan with her to try it out without the chart for a week and see whether she behaves well. Tell her up front, if that does not work out, the chart will be up in the wall. In a way, it is good for them to think that they control their own good time out. Certainly, she won't get depressed by that action. Only thing that would depress her is if she behaves well for a week and you still don't take her out, as promised. When you fulfill your promise that is verbally committed, she would understand also that her words should also be fulfilled. The children emulate the behavior of the parents most of the time.

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Children who question a lot develop pretty quickly. That is a welcome sign. MIL supporting grandchildren is a very common problem in most houses. The children know the dynamics of relationship between the adults and definitely use that to their advantage. Even if there is difference among the parents, they will try to take advantage out of them. They are not bad manipulators but they just understand the dynamics very well. That is all. One solution for that problem is to discipline and reward the child separately and not in the presence of MIL. Frankly, inside the heart, the child would know MIL's support is only temporary and still she needs to make good with mom. We need to explore that requirement to discipline and develop a particular pattern of behavior.

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