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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by omnam, Jan 21, 2012.

  1. omnam

    omnam Platinum IL'ite

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    Tips for grieving after a breakup or divorce:
    Don’t fight your feelings – It’s normal to have lots of ups and downs, and feel many conflicting emotions, including anger, resentment, sadness, relief, fear, and confusion. It’s important to identify and acknowledge these feelings. While these emotions will often be painful, trying to suppress or ignore them will only prolong the grieving process.
    Talk about how you’re feeling – Even if it is difficult for you to talk about your feelings with other people, it is very important to find a way to do so when you are grieving. Knowing that others are aware of your feelings will make you feel less alone with your pain and will help you heal. Journaling can also be a helpful outlet for your feelings.
    Remember that moving on is the end goal – Expressing your feelings will liberate you in a way, but it is important not to dwell on the negative feelings or to over-analyze the situation. Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger, and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward.
    Remind yourself that you still have a future – When you commit to another person, you create many hopes and dreams. It’s hard to let these dreams go. As you grieve the loss of the future you once envisioned, be encouraged by the fact that new hopes and dreams will eventually replace your old ones.
     
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    privytrifles Silver IL'ite

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    Tugga Silver IL'ite

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    Good one... In addition to this, I would say... One should work hard to settle in life on her own... Be in in a career settlement or buying a home or whatever. Make sure that you can manage your life, future and your kid on your own...
    Try develop a circle of friends and relatives who understand you better and are ready to provide any help when needed. Remember, as a single parent you may need loads of help from others to fill the absence of your partner in raising your kid.

    Avoid self sympathy, rather make sure that you are special in some or the other ways.
     
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    PriyaKat Silver IL'ite

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    Self pity and thinking of the past and feeling sorry for self are the worst kind of masochistic punishments a woman can give herself. so ,the first rule is: Stay clear of negative emotions, especially self pity.
     
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    blackbeauty84 IL Hall of Fame

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    Adding on to that
    1)Stop Trying to Forget Him/Her: It's difficult to forget the one whom we thought we would spend the entire life with. Best thing is to make peace with the past.
    2)Keep yourself busy: When your day is busy, you don't have time to think about any incidents in day time & at night time you will be too tired to think about anything else.
    3)Get rid of anything which gives you past memories: If something reminds you of him/her always better get rid of that. Whether it's jewellery you purchased, clothes, car etc. If something gives you bad feeling, move it away from your eye sight.
     

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