Things My Father Says...

Thyagarajan · Nov 25, 2017

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Hi All,

Lately, I have been upset with some of the happenings and things my father has said. I am married and settled abroad and had moved out of the country for a job even when unmarried and my brother stays with them in India. They are visiting me for a few months and I get upset at little things he says.

To give a few instances:
When visiting a few friends places for dinner, he said, "my son is very caring and he always gets me gifts when he goes abroad". I felt bad, as me and my husband also do the same everytime they visit us or we go to India.

Again, on another instance, I said I will make a special dish for you over the weekend as you will like it. He said instantly said to me, "Humara <name of my brother> our son also makes it and he puts peppers in it". Again I felt bad, as he was ignoring my effort to make something special and also again instantly saying "our son" as if I am not theirs.

At another time, at home: he said while generally conversing, "My brother always wears casuals to work on Friday and formal mon to thu". I again got upset and felt he only gives attention to what my brother does. I had lived with them for a number of years and have the same work dress policy, so does my husband and so does my brother's wife as we are all in IT.

Am I overreacting in thinking that I am invisible to him and that its unfair to always talk about their son in front of me and my husband? Am I wrong in getting in upset or I am being oversensitive?
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OK. this is your perspective. There could be another: Dad in your absence goes with your bro to other places and visits your relatives close and distant as well might be telling your attributes, virtues praising your culinary skills and hospitality etc and your bro might be feeling the same way as you felt now but if bro is not as sensitive as you are he won't like to discuss it with you at all!!!!!!!!!
Regards. God Bless Us All.

Preet82 · Nov 29, 2017

If it is bothering you a lot, why don't you tell him?

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