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Things I Wish I Could Have Done Differently After My Delivery...

Discussion in 'Pregnancy & Labor' started by Myliltwincesses, Aug 30, 2019.

  1. Myliltwincesses

    Myliltwincesses Silver IL'ite

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    My happiness couldn’t be described by words when I saw my cute angels for the first time.

    I was both overwhelmed and terrified as my girls are totally dependent on me and I promised myself that I would do whatever it takes to raise them perfectly.

    Now, when I think of those days immediately after their birth, I wish I could have done certain things differently.

    1.I gave birth to my twins at night and I wish I could have slept a little during that time.I was fully awake and excited and I didn’t close my eyes even for a second.I didn’t realize the fact that, it was the last night for me to sleep at least for some time.

    2.I wish I could have said ‘No’ to a very close relative who offered to stay with me and my mother in hospital after delivery. I am grateful for her help, but she was so interfering.Being a first time mom, it was a new experience to me and her constant advices only made things worse.I was irritated and initially I showed my anger only to my mother.But later, I was so tensed and had a breakdown and shouted at her.I rarely shout at others, but I couldn’t control myself.

    During hospital stay, please be with persons who won’t judge you and whom you are comfortable with.Don’t hesitate to say ‘No’.

    3.Breastfeeding – I didn’t get enough milk during first two days and my twins also had latching issues.I feared a lot about my milk supply and was tensed while feeding.Then from third day, my milk supply increased and my twins also slowly started latching.I pumped and also fed them directly.

    One of my close family member told me on second day after my delivery to stop breastfeeding as I had no milk and give only formula.

    I am happy now that I didn’t listen to her words.I am not against feeding formula, but I didn’t want to give up breastfeeding before giving it a try.After 3 days, my supply increased and I continued breastfeeding.Now I breastfeed and also give formula at times.

    I wish I had known earlier that milk supply will slowly increase.Further I wish, I should have told my close family member to stop interfering in my personal matters.

    4.I didn’t know earlier that babies would lose some weight after birth and their weight would gradually increase.I was worried when my girls’ weight reduced when compared to their birth weight.

    I blamed myself for their weight loss and I was relieved only after their weight increased.I wish I had known about this earlier.

    5.As a first time mom, I doubted myself a lot and I was paranoid about my girls’ health.Now when I think about that, I feel that I worried a lot even for small issues.I wish I wasn’t like that during those initial days after my girls’ birth.

    Note: This post has been already published in my personal blog myliltwincesses.wordpress.com.
     
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    YoGirl Gold IL'ite

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    Thanks OP. You refreshed my memories.
    Most of the new moms go through similar set of issues.

    I wish our moms would keep their cool after listening to free pouring advices and still support us as a new mom. I told my mom very sternly to not ask to a new mom, if she has enough supply and if the baby is latching properly and less crying.. etc etc. told her to just tell the new mom to get rest when needed and eat as and when she gets some time.

    The biggest thing i wish i did differently when i was first time mom was to feed the baby from both sides. I was a victim of engorgement, cracked nipples,etc. my mom didnt even know what to do as she herself fell into trap of ppl telling about less milk supply and giving formula to me when i was baby. Many of my frnds said the same thing that they were not aware of engorgement and cracked nipples until they went through it.
     
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    Myliltwincesses Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks for sharing your experiences.. You are right..Everyone want to advise new moms on everything and a new mom is always blamed..
     

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