There Are Also Good Men And Bad Women! Just Read This!

If you had cried...

Dear cheer,

If Cheer herself has cried for this story.... well I can pat on my back. But honestly unless you share Surendars love you would not have cried.

Even before the first reply appeared on this forum one ILite gave me a pm saying that she was shamelessly crying after reading that story. In fact I had to take efforts to hide my tears from my colleagues in the office. That ILite was reminded of her sweet brother in India who is as good as Suren in the story.


Yes, Cheer, things are changing now. But one thing I have observed with many NRIs and their relations living in India. In fact there was a classical Malayalam movie too on the subject. The head of the family would have been slogging on an offshore oil well for months on end and while returning to India on annual passage he would see his family members fighting for what objects he has brought for them.

Too much of material wealth at times makes some of us blind to the thing that really matters namely, people.

One way of getting rid of that attachment is just to see what happens to those things which we have coveted. We lose interest in them after a while.
I don't agree with your statement that Husbands are more liberal. Their attachment is in different areas. That's all. We have to get into our heart the fundamental truth that "THINGS DON'T MATTER AT ALL."
Then we can always live a life of contentment and happiness.
regards,
sridhar

 

Attendance Taken on Record, Madam!

Thanks for the nice post. A good writer writes only what is happening around him. A fiction is called fiction only for the sake of format. In fact there is no better medium to reflect real life than fiction.
It takes all types of people to make this world. Just as there are husbands who are scared of their wives, so there are wives who are scared of their husbands. Goodness and badness are evenly distributed between the sexes. Though I would say honestly in a typical Indian set-up a bad husband can do much more damage than a bad wife.
When the question of mastering one's spouse or possessing one's spouse comes love silently vanishes from the scene.
It is all easy to say that we are made by our homes and upbringing. But now all the great masters say that our soul at the deepest level chooses the womb it should be born in and the home it should grow up. The great thinker James Allen used to say, don't blame it on your circumstances. Your thoughts become our circumstances. When they are inside your mind they are called thoughts; when they manifest outside they are called circumstances.
Thanks Shahana, for the nice post.
regards,
sridhar

 

Thanks, Anjana

Dear Faultless one,
This story is taken from real life; it is hot from the central battlefield of life. And when ever a story comes from that place, you tend to see all known characters playing known roles. That explains the liking for this story as well as the heaviness of theart.
Yes, Bhaiyya could have distributed one box of gifts then and there. Left to himself he would have done that. But I have clearly portrayed the battle his conscience is waging with his wife's command.
Men or women basically prefer status quo and would go to any extent to sustain it. When there is a bully in one's wife the last thng a man would like to do is to infuriate her and rock the semblance of marriage subsisting between them. This also happens when the wife silently swallows her husbands inequities because she does not want to disturb the status quo.

All of us are Roopas to some degree, Bhaiyyas to a greater degree and Surendar to a smaller degree. The whole exercise of spiritual growth (if I can use a fancy word here) is to become less of Roopa and more of Surendar and eliminate the conflicts of Bhaiyya. It can happen in a small incident. You see after this incident Bhaiyya's attitude towards his wife, towards life would have changed. Who knows reaching Bangalore he might fight with his wife and instill good sense in her.

I am surprised to see that material things dominate our mind. In those days when things were scarce it would be all right if we had this attachment. (I remember when I was in school I had to wait for two hours in a queue to get a kg of sugar)
I think we need to have some mental exercise before we come out of his attachment to things which burns all the love in our hearts.
Thanks Anjana,
sridhar

 

There Are Good Men And Good Women! Period!

Yes, ILites, there are good people, enough of them. And my story which is there in the latest Dinamalar-Varamalar is an explanation of that statement.
Please use the link below to go to that thread and read the story in Tamil (The English Version of the story is The Scandal; since this is slightly ethnic, better read in Tamil) and leave your comments there.

http://www.indusladies.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3245

regards,
Varalotti

 

Ghostwriting!

Yes, Most Gracious ILites, that's the one-word theme of a short story of mine which has appeared in DH of today.
I am giving here the link to the thread where the story is introduced, as usual by Chitra, and this thread contains links to read the story.
Please read the story and let me have your views.

http://www.indusladies.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3243

regards,
Varalotti

 

A Video Presentation This Time!

Most Gracious ILites,
For this Wednesday thread I am saying it with a picture, actually a video. A video which hurt me when I saw it the first time, and hurts me whenever I see it or even think of it.
This is the disease of the new age and in its effect even worse than Aids. Condoms at least provide some measure of protection against Aids.
But against this... we are powerless.
Have a look at the video and give your views, not as a courtesy to your Varalotti, but to discharge your social responsibility.
Varalotti