The Way Divorced People Are Viewed

Since you are on a rant, and ask the "why...oh why" question, here is a positive spin for the divorced.

In countries, and/or life-situations where a divorce is a hard thing to get, and enduring the suffering in bad marriages is the only option and the general norm, people who go around flaunting their new freedom and happiness would be viewed with jealousy.

As for others viewing the divorced as some sort of sociopaths, it is a merely a perception from one side. The others have lost the bond, a mutual interest, a theme for life, that they used to have in common with the freshly divorced: being in a miserable marriage. And that is why they might avoid the different, and flock with their own sort.

If you are resolved to be happy, and not depend on "the others" to be so , you'd soon realize that nobody is treating you a sociopath.

 

Our society is judgmental of everyone who is different from the norm. Divorcees, widows, homosexuals, mentally challenged, physically challenged, childless, childfree, single... the list can go on and on. people feel secure when every around them is following the same structure, when someone differs, they feel threatened. I am recently separated but I am not staying in India. Here most people ( my friends circle, work circle, flatmates) view my relationship status as similar to a breakup from a long term boy friend. No judgement whatsoever. No one really is bothered . I am guessing it would have been a very different experience if I was staying in India.

 

Divorcees are no longer of use to marrieds, hence they are shunned away.

Remember in adulthood, people become friends and acquaintances if there is a mutual (or one-sided) benefit.

Experience.

Unless divorcee (male or female) is rich, beautiful, interesting, or any combination, that person will be overlooked.

 

Hahaha... You are right about how people associate with others who have some common interest in their lives.

Couples with first babies are the most clannish. They can talk endlessly about their bubbuloo's diaper travails, toilet training, teething, the ear infections, the sleeping.eating struggles, and on and on. Listening to all that, in each and every get together, couples who are yet to be parents might even contemplate divorce and excommunication just to escape that torture.

Divorced people are just like anyone else. When they have a good thing in their lives, they can never appreciate that at all.

 

Other opinions might not bother you, when you stop caring so much...

 

Compared to the west India is a little late in warming up to the idea of divorce. It is a cultural hang up rather than a personal one.